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As I've mentioned in a few other posts I don't have a really bad marriage situation like a lot of people who post here.  I'm so sorry for how difficult many people's lives are.  When I heard Melissa talk about this book I really thought it sounded like my husband and I  thought if this is what's going on with us maybe we can improve our marriage by learning more.  After reading here though I sometimes wonder what am I thinking - my life is heaven compared to many.  I'm reading the book though and it's very good.  My husband has never been diagnosed with ADD/HD but the more I read the more

My husband has ADD, and takes everything SO PERSONALLY.  Including things, that non-ADD people would simply brush off.  They put him in a tailspin.  He keeps me up all night stressing, and eventually starts lashing out at me when I've done nothing but support and love him.  He says the most hurtful things to me.  So now, every time I hear that he's had a problem with his dad, or something at work, I know I have to brace myself because he's going to turn his angry reactions on me.

My husband was diagnosed with ADD about 17 years ago. We have been married for 15 years and things are beginning to fall apart.Here is the current situation: my daughter (from another marriage) has a son aged 2 ½ . This little boy just adores my husband who has a hard time interacting with him. My husband is oblivious to the fact that he doesn’t really interact with him. My daughter has been angry about this in the past and I have had discussions with my husband to make hi m aware of his non-interaction and he had corrected his behavior for a while.

I find your struggles so familiar.  I have been married 13 years.  We dated for 5 before that.  I loved the hyper focus lovefest--especially so because I am the adult child of alcoholic/co-dependent parents.  I also loved to rescue my ADHD man from his various crises. 

My husband was a very intelligent, funny, adventuresome, loving man.   He has always provided well for us, has had a very steady work history, and wanted to spend time together (bowling, vacations, ect.) He didn't need to be the center of attention, he was quiet and witty. Then ADD became dominate in his life and things began to unravel.

We have 23 years together, 2 kids, a house and a history together. Our future is not looking bright.

He has ADD is on fluxotine and dextroamphetamine XR (depression and ADD) and therapy once a week. 

Is there any evidence of this?

My husband has recently been diagnosed with ADD at age 42. No family history that I can see (in fact, everyone is a high achiever, professional, successful.)

My husband is very smart, well educated. He was a heavy pot smoker at a young age (12 or 13 to about 18.) He no longer smokes pot but does have some issues with alcohol.

Thoughts?

I've been checking out this site for the last year +. Finding it is a large part of the reason I was able to remain with my partner after three years of asking him, "What is wrong with you?! Why are you such a jerk, sometimes? Why don't you know how to treat people?!" He'd told me that he'd been diagnosed with ADD when he was younger, but I'd never bothered to do further research about what that meant. I've had friends who have ADD/ADHD and it never affected my life negatively. They just seemed to need to develop some special techniques to manage their study habits in school.

Hi,

I've read a bit about ADD symptoms, and they seem to fit my husband to a T.  Can anyone tell me if my suspicions are accurate?  Here are some of his traits that are red flags:

My husband takes 60mg of Vyvance in the morning which seems to be working. The problem is it wears off before he gets home which means there is really not benefit of any medication in the evening. He's taken aderall and it makes him worse. Will taking a higher dosage of Vyvance help or are there other short acting drugs out there which he should talk to his doctor about?

Hello group,