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I AM ON MEDICATION AND I HAVE TOLD MY WIFE THAT I WANT TO REVIVE THE RELATIONSHIP. SHE IS NOT WILLING TO DO SO AT THIS POINT, OR POSSIBLY EVER.

WE HAVE 2 CHILDREN (1 WITH ADHD). I AM SEEKING ANY KIND OF RESPONSES TO TRY TO REAGIN OUR HOUSEHOLD.

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I apologize if my issues are addressed elsewhere on this site-I just don't have the time to read everything and could use some help.

2 years ago I broached with my wife the possibility that she had ADHD; she took the suggestion well, stating that she always felt she was borderline for it and had a family history. She started meds but any time I suggested that what I had read (Mostly Driven To Distraction) on the issue indicated that in addition to meds she needed a coach or someone to help her function in ways that worked for her, she resisted.

I am trying to figure out what type of coaching or counseling would be the best for me and I would

appreciate any information or personal experiences any one has had.

It has been a year. I made the mistake of leaving. As any successful woman who is on her feet in a similar situation she proceeded with the divorce steps. She begged and pleaded for me to stay that night. I felt  I only wanted to separate but she said  if I left it would be over. She had enough of the issues over 14 years. I knew I had issues and wanted just a break but eventually on the night I left I was drunk and couldn't hear her pleas just my temporary pleasures.

Ok. So, I'm going to describe to you a fight that took place between my partner (ADD) and I yesterday that has been non-stop until I had a melt down later this afternoon-- which involved me feeling like ripping my hair out and jumping off our balcony-- but anyway.

So... these aren't my words but I thought we could all use some encouragement!

I read this the other day and it made me think of my situation:

"A Carrot, An Egg, And A Coffee Bean

You will never look at a cup of coffee the same way again.

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as if as soon as one problem was solved a new one arose.

So.  I was posting last Friday, and in the middle of my post (re: my husband and our issues) I was stricken with symptoms such that I called 911.  I thought I was having a heart attack.  The paramedics checked me out.  Saw nothing that indicated heart attack or other cardiac issues.  I declined to go to the hospital.  However, my blood pressure and heart rate had both increased to well beyond what is normal for me, as I typically run very low in both areas.

Ran to counseling and are going to try to work it out. 

Thanks for the replies.