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It has been a year. I made the mistake of leaving. As any successful woman who is on her feet in a similar situation she proceeded with the divorce steps. She begged and pleaded for me to stay that night. I felt  I only wanted to separate but she said  if I left it would be over. She had enough of the issues over 14 years. I knew I had issues and wanted just a break but eventually on the night I left I was drunk and couldn't hear her pleas just my temporary pleasures.

Ok. So, I'm going to describe to you a fight that took place between my partner (ADD) and I yesterday that has been non-stop until I had a melt down later this afternoon-- which involved me feeling like ripping my hair out and jumping off our balcony-- but anyway.

So... these aren't my words but I thought we could all use some encouragement!

I read this the other day and it made me think of my situation:

"A Carrot, An Egg, And A Coffee Bean

You will never look at a cup of coffee the same way again.

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as if as soon as one problem was solved a new one arose.

So.  I was posting last Friday, and in the middle of my post (re: my husband and our issues) I was stricken with symptoms such that I called 911.  I thought I was having a heart attack.  The paramedics checked me out.  Saw nothing that indicated heart attack or other cardiac issues.  I declined to go to the hospital.  However, my blood pressure and heart rate had both increased to well beyond what is normal for me, as I typically run very low in both areas.

Ran to counseling and are going to try to work it out. 

Thanks for the replies.

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I posted here a couple of months ago about my BF of two years who was verbally abusive to me (we broke up recently). I'm 37, he is 35. He has a good job, we had an amazing sex life, he was a fun and creative person, he had an amazing family, but there were issues... One of them was responsibility. He took two years to clean up his house which was littered with boxes of junk from the many times he had moved after his divorce.

Hello all and thanks in advance for reading.

I have been with my fiancee for about 5 years now and I'm wondering if it's time for me to leave.  I'm sort of a traditional lady  when it comes to relationships, so I don't necessarily feel like leaving is the right thing to do.  There's also some early childhood stuff in there related to my dad leaving which plays into it as well.

After 13 years of fighting, I just don't know how much fight I have left in me.

This morning I was getting DS off to school while DH was out shoveling the driveway.  He comes in and DS was on the couch being his usual ornery self like he is every morning.  DH says "oh, you're not going to school today?"  WTF?!?!?!!?!?  So that puts the idea in DS's head.  Gee, thanks. 

This is my first post, so please excuse any ramblings. I’m not on any meds yet! Do people use these forums as a place to just get all their thoughts together? I think that’s what I’m doing now. I am 42 years old, married 15 years with a 15 year old son. My intention is not for this to be a “rant” – just an introduction to my situation because I plan on coming back here frequently.