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Wow!  First of all, let me say how happy I am to have found this site!!  I can't believe some of the stories and posts I have read... it's like I'm reading about my own marriage!  So thank you all for sharing your stories. 

I'm real curious what the teen years were like for other ADHDers.  My ADHD husband didn't have the best years.  For most of his teen years he was EXTREMELY hyperfocused on one particular girl.  He was truly obsessed with her and he put so much time and energy and thought into dreaming about her, he wasn't able to experience any other things that a teen should experience.  It made it so he wasn't able to develop his social skills, grades weren't great despite his being very smart.  Everything else in his life suffered b/c of it.  He did very little about his feelings as far as actually wan

My husband--the guy largely in denial about his condition, takes an ADD med but will not enter into any sort of ADD therapy, etc.--doesn't seem to have made a habit out of taking his medication. Before we separated, I would notice that when things would get stressful, he would have two very different personalities: one who was loving, sweet, honest, generous, and understanding, and another who was a stubborn, selfish, illogical, pathological liar.

Hello.

I've posted here from time to time, frustrated and looking for answers.

Is a great deal of baseless criticism part of this ADD?

Recently there was a complaint that there were not enough positive posts around here, so I thought I would do one.  I recently read a book called The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin.  It's really good, and has a neat framework for thinking about small ways you can create more happiness in your life.  One of the things she did was to create her "12 Commandments," or her personal rules/values to live by.  So I thought I would make my own and share them here.  Please keep in mind that living these commandments is a work-in-progress for me, but they do give me some guideposts to

What is a good response when friends ask why my ADD/ADHD husband cannot work?  They all know others with the disability that work.  I try to expain that symptoms vary but it never seems to satisfy them.

tonite my ADD husband came home and I CALMLY told him that I should take over the finances and he should get an allowance each week.  He told me "I don't know if you are responsible enough to handle the finances".  I assured him that I was and asked him what amount would he find reasonable (I really tried to keep it together).  He told me $XX amount a week which is already what he is OVER spending.  I told him that was too much and he got mad and said "why didn't you just pick an amount for me!?".  I told him that I honestly thought he would NOT pick the current amount he is spending as a

ySo, I've known about my ADD since I was 12 but only started really trying to deal with it a few years ago with the births of my children. I've tried a lot done the two steps forward 1-2 steps back thing. Recently started viewing add issues as an addiction and have been attempting a twelvish step program. In short I feel like I've been trying really hard to be a better partner and father. But I feel like I can't ask anything of my SO without being reminded of how terrible I was... with backsliding sometimes was means last week.

I feel like my life is falling apart, I've only recently completely accepted and understood the imapact my ADD partner is having on my life and now I feel devastated why I've allowed this to happen to me.