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So, my bona fides, my self justification for writing here.  You can skip this whole paragraph basically.  I have ADHD.  I was diagnosed when I was 35.  I'm 36 now.  I take my meds.  I try to listen better.  I really try to communicate.  I try to focus on medium range life, not put blinders on and get lost in the immediacy of the now, or the la la land of the "whatever ionosphere" I can go to so easily (e.g.

I love my ADHD partner very much. He is a caring, loving, intelligent energetic person, but has not figured out his own role and position in life yet. With my patience and help he is getting more insights and he even has gained a little self reflection! He is happy that I helped him reach this and he has changed greatly. He had to get over his own stubbornness (took him years) and it took him years to see his own personality in nuances. At some points he fails in seeing the good things in his own character, but it has been the case the other way around too.

I've been on this forum for years trying to find answers to help my ADHD husband and our marriage.  I sit here with my eyes swollen in tears, my heart and mind battered beyond repair.  All I want is peace and answers to why I had to go thru all this pain and suffering for in the end nothing to change and for me to be an emotional wreck when I was a happy, healthy stable beautiful girl? 

Does anyone know what it feels like when your husband is addicted to porn and interaction with transvestites and escorts (when he has a supermodel joan of arc for a wife)?

Hi all,

I am very new to this site and hope to get some feedback.

OK.  So I've spent a lot of time since my girlfriend and I split up just taking time to reconnect with Scott to see where I'm at and define what goals I want to set for myself in the coming months.

I've spent a great deal of time interacting with people on forums like this and I've been writing about some of my experiences online as a way of understanding what really happened in my relationship.  I've taken a close look at the relationship, asked myself some pretty tough questions, and have come up with some very honest answers.

Okay, I'm going to say what a lot of these posts say: I'm new here. I apologize if there is already a forum on here in this category on this topic:

I have an impossible time wading through long posts, so I will try to keep this short, as if I had to read it instead of having written it!

I am adhd, diagnosed around 5 years ago, with non-adhd spouse, in 20+ year relationship, personal counseling for most of the last 5 years, couples counseling for 2 or 3 years [time spans are vague for me; time is only a concept] :-).

I was married to a person I cared deeply about and was in love with for many years. My marriage has now ended and I believe our problems for the most part were due to a lack of effort in getting help for my ADHD and depression. I never realized how this could affect a marriage until recently. I had a self-diagnosis yet never followed up with it. I have had some depression problems that I have been working on as well. Recently after formally testing off the charts with a psychiatrist did I realize how the deterioration was due in large part to the ADHD.

My partner has ADHD and I think in order to save my life he would run into a burning building. But...if he sees a nice looking girl at a discotheque, he  wants to hit on her, flirt, dirty dance and eventually kiss...

He has hit on 4 girls and kissed them. He stopped at the point when tongues were getting involved. 

I have been posting a lot the last couple of days, it seems, and I must say, I feel like my ADDwife and I (non-ADD) have been making some progress.  Granted, it's in fits and starts, but it's progress nonetheless.  And progress is GOOD!!