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My husband has ADHD. We are having a problem with parking tickets. He been getting ticket almost every week or other weeks. He doesn't pay them and hide them. I remind him to pay them. First, I get angry for getting the ticket in the first place because of his careless. Then, I said okay you got the ticket and now you need to pay it. He still doesn't do that. By the time I keep reminding him... he gets another ticket. He doesn't work. I am the one end up paying all the tickets with fine.  I need help here. What am I suppose to do? As of right now... we have 2 outstanding tickets.

I just wrote this post in another thread and thought it warranted a thread of it's own.  I could really use some help here!

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I am feeling VERY disconnected from my wife.  And for me, the most important way to feel connected is through conversation.

I experience all kinds of disconnects when in conversation with my wife:

- I ask a question which she doesn't answer = disconnect

- I am talking about something and I can see she is distracted by the look on her face = disconnect

I've just about given up after thirty years of marriage. His adhd therapist (adhd himself) told him that it's a matter of good communication to solve the problems in our marriage. He says he has no problems with communications at work and other people only with me. My husband believes that our problems stem from the differences in the male and female brain. I agree that with a normal male and female relationship that is true. Men and women approached communicating with different patterns only he doesn't have the "normal" male brain.

I am the ADHDer in the house and we fight about things a lot but mostly me forgetting. She is aware that I have adhd but I feel that she does not really get it. I just want to know if it is unreasonable for me to ask her to help me to remember important things?

I apologies in advance for this, but I needed to vetn somewhere and find advice or experience or something.

As some may be aware of they're loved ones who deal with ADD everyday also deal w/ a history of drug addiction or a very bad driving record...and other attached side effects...for my loved one the driving was out of control....We have our daily battles with the ADD as the 'norm' these days but he has done wonderfully in so many other aspects of his life and now it seems like it could come to a screeching halt...

This seems to be a bit up and down for us and I have a question about this based on my husband's last coaching appt.  First a bit of background.

In discovering that he had a diagnosis of ADD, we worked together very much.  We discussed why we both thought there was a problem.  He definitely thought *something was wrong* with him, and after some time of avoiding it, he did the research and came out saying he thought it was ADD.

Ok.. I've got something I need some help and feedback on. My husband and I have been married 11 years, together for 13. We only learned about a year ago he's got ADHD, and he's medicated now.

I often read on this forum, and sometimes feel myself, that the nonADD spouse has to make lots of changes to accommodate the ADD spouse.  In fact, I have read on numerous occasions, statements from the nonADD spouse that express frustration that they are making ALL the changes.

Well, this morning, my wife reverted to an old habit - she made a noise that I find really annoying, which she stopped doing months ago.  (I had told her it was a really "disgusting" noise, and she agreed, and she worked to change that habit.)

I've been reading through these forums tonight and seeing a lot of consistent things. Many of them echo the same things that my wife (non ADD) and I (ADD) deal with on a regular basis. We've been married for 14 years and have worked through many issues including her frustration with me and my ADD. I realized tonight what one of the biggest causes of friction is when we get in an argument and I see the the same thing through other posts. It has to do with how we respond to my forgetting to do something that was asked of me.

.....I see so much hurt and despair and miscommunication and hope fallen apart etc...I too go through these up's and down's on a regular basis w/ my loved one. It's difficult to hold on to hope when things go well and 48 hrs later they are going back down again and then 72 hrs later you're back up again...if there was ever a roller coaster that made my head spin it's the one that I ride with my fiancé by my side. He is diagnosed with ADD and is 30 years old and we are working through a lot but not giving up either.