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tonite my ADD husband came home and I CALMLY told him that I should take over the finances and he should get an allowance each week.  He told me "I don't know if you are responsible enough to handle the finances".  I assured him that I was and asked him what amount would he find reasonable (I really tried to keep it together).  He told me $XX amount a week which is already what he is OVER spending.  I told him that was too much and he got mad and said "why didn't you just pick an amount for me!?".  I told him that I honestly thought he would NOT pick the current amount he is spending as a

ySo, I've known about my ADD since I was 12 but only started really trying to deal with it a few years ago with the births of my children. I've tried a lot done the two steps forward 1-2 steps back thing. Recently started viewing add issues as an addiction and have been attempting a twelvish step program. In short I feel like I've been trying really hard to be a better partner and father. But I feel like I can't ask anything of my SO without being reminded of how terrible I was... with backsliding sometimes was means last week.

I feel like my life is falling apart, I've only recently completely accepted and understood the imapact my ADD partner is having on my life and now I feel devastated why I've allowed this to happen to me.

For those of you who have been concerned about the tone of voice used by "Miss Behaven" lately, you may remember an episode some time ago when we uncovered a person at the website who was posting fraudulently here - claiming things about herself that weren't true, posing as two different people who would then get into arguments with each other that would upset many people in the forum, etc.  One of the "names" for that person was "Normal Mom" and she is back - this time in the "role" of Miss Behaven and, also, CrazyDave (a new character who hasn't had much time to post yet).

Hello,

I'm new to the forums (been lurking for a while) and I'm feeling very alone so I felt it was time to post.  I hope I'm in the right spot. 

A bit of history - my DH was diagnosed w/ADHD, anxiety and "mild depression" around March of '09.  We were referred to a psychologist from our marriage counselor as she felt he might be bi-polar.  My son (10) is also ADHD and was diagnosed when he was around 6 yrs. old.  We also share another son (3) and we have been married for 11+ yrs.

I wonder if there are any others like me here who have an ADHD marriage but no kids.  I've been reading here and it seems like most people have kids which I can imagine would make the whole situation much more difficult and overwhelming.  Though I see our situation in so much of what I've read - and my husband is so much like ADD descriptions - it also doesn't seem like we have it anywhere near as "bad" as what others describe.   I'm not sure if that's because we don't have kids to complicate matters or if we've just found a way to tolerate our differences or if my husband's ADD tendencie

I'm glad I found this site. I have been married to my husband, who has ADHD, for over a year but we've been together almost 9 years. We have a 5 month old son. I'm really afraid that our marriage is going to end, and my son will come from a broken home. I've always known that DH has problems- we met in a PhD program, and even though he's very bright, it took him 8 years of struggle to finish. He has since struggled to keep jobs, and has lost some. He now works a full time job, but is having so much difficulty managing it. He ends up needing to work on weekends almost all the time.

Hi everyone,

Today I saw a sign that said "If you find yourself in a hole, stop digging." I felt it so appropriate for what I felt for so many years of my marriage, before the ADD diagnosis and before I finally "got it" and 'stopped digging'. Such great advice, sounds so simple, but it is so hard. Just wanted to share.

My husband suffered heat exhaustion while on the job a couple of weeks ago and ended up in the ER.   Since he was on the job at the time of the heat exhaustion, he was given a drug test.  The drug test came back positive for amphetamines. Well, since he takes Adderall for ADHD and since Adderall is an amphetamine, he was fired last Wednesday.  His supervisor who fired him was very professional and even though my husband explained that he takes this medication for ADHD, since there was no documentation in his file, he was still let go.