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My wife and I are going on 10 years since we first started dating exclusively.  We've been living together for 6 years, and married for nearly four.  Things have deteriorated rapidly in the past year. In the past two months, we've had explosive arguments occasionally ending with, "Leave me already; you're making me miserable!" or "Nothing about you makes me happy anymore!"

I'm quite certain that much of our problem is directly related to our mental conditions.  Explosive confrontations are not me.  I have patience, and would prefer to let things cool down.

I just posted in a different thread and ended with the following: 

"I'm not sure why my wife and others seem to think that if I ask it, I am *demanding* it be met *right away* or even *at all.*  That is quite an assumption on her part."

I met my husband online 4 years ago. We fall in love and still are crazy about each other. But we argue alot, because of small things, misunderstandings,difficult comunication( he says my English is not good enough)...I suffered a lot, because I love him.Finally we decided for me to come here to get married and to live together in the US.

My husband is seeing a new psychiatrist, who may not know anything about ADD. When my husband was describing his ADD symptoms the doctor said "you are disabled" but my husband is working and wants to continue to do so. The doctor took him off anti-depressants, which we think is a mistake. The theory seems to be that the anit-depressants keep the ADD meds from working right. But Wellbutrin is often prescribed for ADD, so we don't understand how that could be keeping the Concerta from working.

I am planning to divorce my ADHD husband. It's been a long time coming. One of the reasons I did not do this sooner is that I fear that he won't do what he's supposed to do when it comes to gathering paperwork, responding to summons, getting his stuff out, etc. I don't want this to drag on and on and on. I also fear going completely broke but my parents are offering to help me which makes me feel a bit better.

Hello,

I'm new to saying anything to anyone about what has been going on in my household. I met my partner at work, have been together now for two years.

Good day Doctors.

I'm the non ADDer in this relationship.  I've searched this website and forum and other places to learn "coping mechanisms", but to no avail.   I really need to hear back with real and effective ways of coping, to help prevent flashpoints.

I had found a website that explains the seven most common flashpoints for spouses of ADDers.   It is located at this website:

http://www.additudemag.com/adhd-web/article/1736.html

In a recent "Marriage Tip" email Melissa sent, she warns "If you are in one of those relationships where eye-rolling and other non-verbal dismissal cues are used, watch out!"  My wife sent me an email after reading it that said - "I think Melissa was directing this at the person with ADD, because if the person without ADD used non-verbal cues, the person with ADD wouldn't even notice it."