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Why are my needs being ignored?

myself being the non, ive learned a lot from this site, Thank you all for sharing both sides of this.

This relationship has been off and on for 15 plus years.

I knew something was off due to her behavior, but had not educated myself with mental health issues.

Im not going to go into great detail but i just need some insight on these issues and what suggestions any may have.

what happened to my attention, needs,boundaries, respect?

why does it start off great and mutually respectful and then dies?

Am I losing my mind?

Help!  I have been married 21 years and my marriage is awful.  My husband has no focus!  I told him years ago to get tested and if it was ADHD, at least we can build a toolkit to cope and then hopefully manage.  He refused but now with yet another blow up on his part, now he thinks he is ADHD because I told him I have one foot out the door.  And his behaviours are getting worse.  I am used to asking for things 3 or 4 times, doing things myself.  I have every feeling described for a spouse of ADHD.  He has most behaviours of ADHD.

New and losing hope

My husband of 23 years  has ADHD I have four children, the arguments are constant and have been for 20 years. I can't cope anymore, it's so many things. What seems like lies, what feels like he doesn't care about me or kids things because he doesn't follow through makes wild promises, and let's me down so much. I can't stand anymore arguments the pain inside is intense. Please someone can you show me where to start ? 
 

Thank you so much 

Wife wants me to make a plan to fix the marriage

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My wife and I have been married for 15 years and they have been extremely rocky.  I was diagnosed with ADHD about 8 years ago and take medication daily.  My wife is at the raging point of our marriage.  We have been living in separate parts of the house for just over a year now.  I'm the GM of a restaurant and work on average 60 hours a week.  It is not very conducive to a marriage and or personal life.  The reason I am posting this is because I need help.  She has been the one over the years moving her schedule around my ever changing work schedule; putting all the effort in to keep the ma

Loneliness in ADHD marriage

Hi guys!

I'm new here. I needed to find a space where I can talk about how I feel. I hope this is it.

I believe my husband has ADHD. I say believe because he has never been diagnosed, but we've been married 15 years (it's been a very difficult marriage) and a couple of years ago I stumbled on some info about ADHD in adults  and started to read up on it (via internet articles) and I am 100% convinced that this is what my husband suffers from.

ADHD or abuse? That is the question.

Hi everyone. I’m happy to have found this forum because I’m losing my ENTIRE mind. I'm going to try and make this as concise as I can.

 

Some background: we are in our early 30s, together 10 years, married almost 7. We have a 1 year old and my husband works full time and I am a stay at home mom.

 

Love, sociopathic traits, ADHD

Do any of you feel that love is not in the air? One of the things I've found most weird is that my BF tells me constantly, in fact far too much, that he loves me. When I say far too much I mean at inapparopriiate times, like when something important is going on I have to deal with, like issues with fmaily, spending time with a friend etc, will bombard me with grand declations of love and gifs and all sorts that I can''t respond to because I'm doing something else. Ok the odd one, fine, but it's like someone yelling at me when I'm trying to do something important.

Communication failure, and the effects.....

One thing that I have realized trying to have a (serious) conversation with my add wife is, it's basically impossible...Never in my life have I been involved in so many wasted words, and conversation attempts...Based on six years of reading posts here, so many of you understand this...A person who does not want to hear you, want!  When a person's life isn't a responsible one, they know it....Typical behavior for adult irresponsibility is denial, blame, anger, defensiveness, bullying or running away...But many of us who feel like we are drowning in the chaos and dysfunction can't help but tr

Give me some guidance .......please

I'm really confused and just at my wits end. I am with my partner who has three children. We've been together for over a year. He was always very chatty and failed to listen to me. He'd go off on a tangent on all sorts of things.

I said one day, do you think you have ADHD. And he said he does. I feel because he knows I have health issues, he should have said this much earlier. I feel a bit hoodwinked.

Give me some guidance .......please

I'm really confused and just at my wits end. I am with my partner who has three children. We've been together for over a year. He was always very chatty and failed to listen to me. He'd go off on a tangent on all sorts of things.

I said one day, do you think you have ADHD. And he said he does. I feel because he knows I have health issues, he should have said this much earlier. I feel a bit hoodwinked.

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