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I fear this post may be interpreted as selfish.  As a non-ADHD partner, I feel there are others who can (albeit possibly reluctantly) admit to sharing my feelings.  

Sometimes I think we are ashamed and feel guilty to admit how angry and impatient we can become as a result of trying to navigate the minds of our ADHD partners and how they impact/affect us individually and as a couple.

Hi. My adhd husband just picked me up from work. He was happy and everything was good. I asked him to go into a store to pick up a case of aluminum tins Bec I was eating lunch in the car. He went in happily and came out cursing on the top of his lungs in the parking lot, screaming in front of people and slams the car door shut as he came in the car. Saying this is the last time he is buying tins Bec it’s $45 a box. I screamed saying what’s wrong with you.why are reacting like this. He told me to shut up! And I said No you should’ve bought pyrexes.

In a couple of days there’s a birthday party for one of my best friends. I said I’d be there. It’s far, half a day on a train. 

My ex and I split about a month ago. It was the culmination of long years of difficulty, loneliness and stress for me; a supportive and nurturing marriage for him. He’s successful and high earning in his field. I am stalled, burned out, part time, looking after the kids still, struggling to get a professional role. I left because he didn’t hear me when I asked for change. I left because he didn’t think what I was saying mattered. I left because I became so unhappy I was thinking of killing myself.

I’ll never be able to inhabit the mind of my ADHD wife and know what it feels like to truly not be able to execute a task. 

But she’ll also never be able to inhabit my mind, and to feel what it’s like to do every task anyway - no matter how much I’d rather not.

It's literally just math. Our expenses are higher than our revenue. Eventually we will run out of money; then we will start to go into debt; then we will get so in debt nobody will lend to us. Then what?  She isn't absolutely terrible about spending but it still bothers me - like if she is at home five days a week but still buys lunch once or twice a week, while I bring my lunch to the office every single day. But she cannot for the life of keep steady employment

Is a huge step forward for me. The ability to experience my normal triggers without reacting is really a big deal. It's not about containing or controlling the feelings that are uncontrollable....it's more, that you don't have those emotions ( feelings ) in the first place, or they're reduced so much, they're almost under the radar.

We are about to "  Celebrate our 54th year of loving marriage but these last few months of this year have presented stress and depression between  us. There has been no communication or joyance experiences between us like all the years before. We have become introverted and  agoraphobic   that we never go out together anymore. I buy her things for holidays, manage day to day expenses, help with anything she wishes but her face and demure remain sad.  In our teens, a tickle and dinner out would replace any short term depression.

Am having an emotional meltdown at my relative’s holiday house, where my severe ADD partner and I have spent a lot of time as a family. The house and surroundings are a huge trigger now.

I feel this moment (crying my heart out) like shit for how he’s treated me and for what’s happened to other relations as a consequence. I don’t know how to live, I don’t know how to protect myself, but perhaps I should try to avoid him altogether, like never see him for children’s events or anything else?

My house is clean :)...And empty!!! Yes!!!.....It took her months to move her stuff. Most of it in the last 50 days, because she (as usual) always plays and justifies waiting to the last minute...No dopamine in doing it orderly, and early, now is it...lol....After she left, I have had probably 5000 pounds of (garbage) stuff to get rid of...I'm about finished, (maybe a few drawers)...I can walk around and I have ton's of room in the house and shop!!