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Hi, its my first time here and I wish I knew about this community sooner as I might have been able to get support and not feel so alone about my 16 year marriage issues. I'm a 41year old male with ADHD diagnosed twice now. 

I read the ADHD and Marriage Six Steps book 6 months ago and it opened my eyes to a lot of the effects of ADHD and my life. Almost every story/anecdote felt like I could have been the one to write it from my experience. There is several things that Im still struggling with that just isn't talked about.

Hi everyone i would like to just discuss what im currently going through and just wanted to see if I could get help.

Hello,

I’m looking for some advice please regarding my partner who has ADHD. We have been together for 4 years and moved in together 1 year ago, in that one year she must have shouted at me to leave calling me all the names under the sun, and how I’m so useless, a bad boyfriend etc. At least 4-5 times I packed my things and left. A few days to a week later she messages and calms down and we work it out and I go back, I know myself this isn’t right I shouldn’t go back, but it’s difficult when you love someone.

A quick ADHD tips and tricks post, something that came to my awareness that I thought was worth mentioning.

It occurred to yesterday, that there's something I learned to do a very long time ago ( intuitively ) or otherwise, that I started doing as a way to get things done. The reason I just now rediscovered this trick I do, because it's been ingrained into my "being" for so long ( long before I was ever diagnosed ) that it's something..."I just do". 

I just need to admit this and deal with it. I saw signs of him "resigning himself" nearly 20 years ago and failed or refused to see those signs as red flags. In these past two decades, it has slowly, progressively gotten worse. Whenever I brought up ADD, he'd fly off the handle.

Have been trying online dating for a few days. Out of hundreds of men’s profiles I’ve found only one person attractive. He contacted me full of enthusiasm. 

Then we’ve tried to arrange a first date. Yesterday I drove 15 miles to a place and time he’d suggested, just to find he’d cancelled on 1,5 hour’s notice because he was ’caught up in a neighboring town’ and wouldn’t make it. 

Today he wanted to see me but we were both busy during the day. When I suggested 8 pm in his neighborhood he answered it was too late for him. 

Before I say another word. I want to express wholeheartedly that I come to this forum to share my deepest and most intimate thoughts because I know, there are poeple here I can trust.  Having said that, I'm going to to say a few things that might not be well received by everyone, especially those with string religious ( Chriatian in particular ) conviction. What I'm about to say, is approximately 63 years coming to my best recollection....age 5. 

What I'm doing now, is making a list of people who no longer get access to me. These people are off my list. 

Content Warning: Contains references to suicide

I'm having another SMH moment concerning my sister. To be clear, a "Deb" is short for Debutante...and yes, I'm being monitored. 

If you recall, I mentioned my mom trying to put me through Debutante Training from lack of understanding how little boys operate. I definitely didn't operate that way! 

This is absolutely,  a perfect example of how there was a complete breakdown and disconnect in communication in my family unit. I'll the backstory as brief as possible to get to the point.

Hello, the following situation has befallen a friend of mine. I want to support her in any way I can. Here is what happened: