This is my first post on the forum.
Today, my partner (non-ADHD, mid-30s, F) got angry at me (diagnosed ADHD 2 1/2 years ago, mid-30s, M) for not leaving on time for my morning meeting. Later, we talked about it and she had a lot to say.
Since we realized that my ADHD is affecting our relationship, we have both focused on this part of our relationship and on putting in work to address it. It has been eye-opening for us both.
Hi, I have two sons, one son and my husband have been diagnosed with ADHD (my husband later in life)…I found this forum by chance because I was googling what to do when you just have such lack of communication…it’s like we are both on cliff edges with a bridge between to help us and he just won’t get on it, or I have to continuously go over the bridge to him.
I can’t bring any of my feelings or thoughts up without him:
Listening but not contributing
Being sarcastic or demeaning
Hello
My partner of 10 years has finally been diagnosed but our marriage remains in tatters. I'm struggling to find a UK based couples therapist who can do online session. This is a last ditch attempt to save our marriage. Any recommendations much appreciated. I've tried those listed on this site but they either don't do online sessions or are currently full.
Thanks
My wife hasn't followed through on any kind of treatment, so things aren't great.
This is the first time I write. My husband has adhd and I don't. We have been seeing a couple's therapist and it is going alright. He admits he has adhd, but he says it is minor and only affects his ability to focus. I think it is more than minor. It affects his organization and planning skills, his irritability and ways he lashes out. Lately I have been very annoyed at the way he does not keep time in mind. He says I am intolerable of any time delay with him. He might be right, I think it happens so often that have become intolerable.
I cannot say this suddenly happened over night, in fact, it's been coming most of my adult life. It's taken years of therapy and my own self reflection ( and a decent memory ) to pull this all together. I feel at this point in my own self awarenes that I can finally answer many of my own questions due to having a complete picture. It also comes from trying my best to take responsibility for what is mine, and rejecting the parts that aren't ( even when someone else is telling you they are ).
I was wondering if anyone else can relate? I have an intense feeling of my energy draining away when I am around my Inattentive ADD husband. Or sometimes I have the feeling that I can't breathe, like there is no air in the room. I feel more balanced when we are not in the same physical space, and dadly when he travels i feel my energy tank slowly refilling. He has crushingly low self esteem, and has needed me to prop him up a lot, and since I'm so exhausted and burnt out I have retreated a lot emotionally to save myself.
Hi. I am new here and am grateful to have found a place to go.
My husband really struggles with anger management and the volatility of things is affecting our marriage. Does anyone have any recommendations of online anger management courses or books etc particularly that would be suit someone with adhd. There are so many to choose from and it's a hard thing for him to do so want it to be worthwhile! And if anyone has any positive stories to share around this improving would love to hear, to give me some hope ...
Hi - i decided to sign up here because it's Christmas and I'm at a loss. We have two young children (about to be 3 and 5) and it seems like all the strategies, and truth be told all of my life, now revolves around my partner (ADHD) and his needs. I just can't see how this works with children -- years before the diagnosis I told him that I was getting emotionally drained and wouldn't be able to keep going. And just like the book describes, I couldn't. I got really sick, I got depressed, I was angry and all the while trying to be the consistent (in all ways) parent to our children.
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