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My wife is currently undergoing assessment for ADHD. Prior to this she out of the blue ended our relationship and has threatened divorce 4 times.

After our first couples therapy appointment with a new therapist I was left feeling really hopeless and I'm wondering if she's the wrong fit or if it's just me not wanting to change?

Is it possible to reignite whatever was there?

Guys, it's been one of those days...neither me or my diagnosed spouse had a good sleep, we are both under stress and he committed to plans but then changed them and did not communicate them to me. Which then led to me trying to go about the day to the plans that we made, only to find out - and have a tension filled spat in front of our son - that he changed his mind and then tried to push back and point the finger at me for my frustrations...when he won't acknowledge his role. So once again I have to pick up the pieces of his mess.

Am I being fair to ADHD Spouse?

I don't think it will ever get better :(

My husband and I have had the same system for our finances for about ten years now.  We put all of our income into our joint checking account and each week an allowance of $30.00 is transferred to our own personal checking accounts.  This becomes our personal money that we can spend on whatever we want without question.  My husband just received two bonuses through his job, one for several hundred dollars and one for a couple thousand dollars.

Does anyone have a good response for when your ADHD Spouse uses having ADHD as an excuse?

My spouse and I are in the middle of buying a house. They were upset with me because I left a blank document that needed to be filled out at work for a day even though she takes much longer than that and needs me to remind them of basic things like getting paystubs and submitting expense reimbursements routinely and regularly and then uses ADHD as an excuse.

How do you guys manage to stay level headed with an adhd partner? I've struggled so much with mine we've been on and off and have gone through horrible fights. I have called it quits many times before but I do love him and am the only one who cares about his adhd and being understanding.

 One other question.. does anyone else's adhd partner find it hard to accept responsibility, they instead blame you or anyone else but themselves when they're wrong?

How would you react or what do you feel when your spouse tells you to grow some balls...