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There’s one fact about my unfortunate two-decade ADD marriage that still makes it hard to accept divorce.

I have not posted in some time, hoping all would improve but it has not. My husband is very angry that I no longer trust him (big surprise when he neglects to inform me of funds used to support his business, lack of communication, and lack of follow through). I have attempted to share with him how trust is built through small actions (following up on what he tells me) but it appears he is so “hurt” by my lack of trust in him that he does not even comprehend.

This is long. Thanks for those who stick with it.

I (40ishF) am the ADHD spouse and have been with my husband (40ishM) for over ten years. While he doesn't have ADHD, he has chronic depression and has received a BD diagnosis in the past (those his current psychiatrist didn't agree with this diagnosis). He is on meds and has been taking meds since we've been together.

it's been some time since I've been able to post. And to be honest, nothing has gotten better - if anything it's gotten so much worse and I need a safe space to vent/cry/relate and all the things in between. 

Spoke to a friend who has also divorced an (hers just probably) ADHD partner after a long marriage. Like me, she feels she has little appetite for life now more than a year after divorce. 

We agreed there’s exhaustion. There’s difficulty shaping life into something that makes sense. There’s a fine balance between needing to add more people and activities to life and not quite being able to handle more. There’s sadness and loss of confidence.

"Question 10 in the #beyourselfatwork survey asks:
How much do you feel you need to prove your competence at work?

Even though, I'm not feeling exceptionally generous at the moment, I wanted to share something that I just noticed the other day. I hope, I can convey this in a way that will actually make sense. It actually does make sense to me, but I know, not e everyone thinks like me.

First, I want to say, I'm rather proud of myself for handling a "situation", as well as I did.   I thought this was worth sharing, because it seemingly, made no sense what so ever. Even now, it doesn't make any sense but at least, I understand.

What I understand is this. My SO, could not communicate something important to her in terms of a sensory issue she was having. It was a priority to the point, she was experiencing panic over it. I came in, at the ramping up of this panic while I was still at work yesterday....

I'm a wife, going on two years now. Before and after marriage we've had some difficulty with staying focused and attentive during...sometimes intimate moments. Which admittedly lead to feelings of disconnect and sometimes frustration. Thankfully after a LOT of work, we managed to maintain a comfortable and open space to talk about such things. Though it took plenty of trial and effort. 

I have a dilemma. I last saw my boyfriend almost a month ago. Last time we were with each other for the weekend. We went to dinner and did fun couples activities the entire weekend. Our weekend went well and we had a lot of fun. We made plans to see again in about two days. I get a text a few days later saying that he is going to self-isolate for some time because he isn't feeling well. His physician is out of town and can't refill his prescription, so he went to a new physician who prescribed something entirely different.