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...  are the guys just that quick to give up, put up or shut up???

Hi,

I have been married to my husband for almost 4 years but I have know him for over 10.  I have always known about his ADHD and witnessed the mood swings and the few days a month of sluggish behavior when his prescription was out. Unitl now it never posed much of a problem with our relationship and marriage.  

My story is so long but ill try shorten as much as possible.

Im 30 married to my husband for 10 yrs we have two beautiful daughters and built a life together. My husband was diagnosed with adhd when he was 8.

In the early years of our marriage my husbund was abusive, i left come back and so on.

5 Things Disrespectful People Do To Make You Feel Like You Are The Problem 

If you notice any of these behaviors from someone you know, or even from yourself, it is a massive sign of disrespect:

1. They verbally attack you. The idea behind this communication strategy is to put you down, so that the other person feels ‘one up.’ Attacking also serves to push you away so you won’t continue to engage with them about the relationship, because that makes them feel vulnerable.

Hello, all.  I am new to this forum and need some help or insight.  Until last month, my husband went to the same psych since he was 15 years old for his ADHD treatment.  He is now 43.  He is now at a new doctor after years of me suggesting he should switch.  The old doctor was giving off some strange signs and I didn't trust her.  The new doc was horrified to learn the daily Adderall dosage that my husband was prescribed.

If you're new here or otherwise unfamiliar with me as a poster, please know that I'm now divorced so I'm not looking for a way to resolve this issue vis-a-vis my ex-husband.  Instead, I'm still trying to process how and why the relationship went south and maybe helping someone else here in the process.

Hi, I'm new to this group and happy to have found it. I need some advice, and would love to hear what you guys have to say. I'll try to keep this short and sweet. 

I stayed up half the night reading this book.  I saw it online while looking for something totally unrelated and bought it on a whim.  When it arrived, I had a few minutes before making dinner, so I started reading it on a whim, thinking it would be one more marriage resource dead-end that didn't really address my experience or solve the mystery for me of why I find it so difficult to make a good marriage with my husband, who is such a good person, but so challenging to share a life with.  

Where can I even start? I'm the one in a long-term marriage with ADD, diagnosed only a few years ago after trying to work with a coach and she recognized the symptoms. Thankfully our children are not ADD/ADHD, so it's just me. I have a job, we have a home, we live paycheck to paycheck, but after a lot of hard work we're carrying no debt beyond the house, so we're not in financial chaos. My non-ADD spouse also works and has a well-paying job, so all in all, we're not wealthy but we're relatively stable.

I have been reacting, responding, being of service, bewildered, discouraged, damaged.  My heart and mind have been little more than a whirlwind around my H's presence, his words, his action/non-action, .... who he is/and isn't in my mind trying to make sense of our/my life.  To the point where there seems to be no him and no me anymore....other than accusations and a senseless game of "Who can out-ignore, with hard shells, out-distance, have higher boundaries?"  And there certainly is no marriage partnership.  Two ships that pass in the night.