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Hi all,

my names stu. I bought the book for couples today and found out about this website. I could really do with some help from anyone who might be going through what I am going through right now.

Basically ive suspected ive had ADHD all my life, i was sort of diagnosed with it a few years ago. Im 39 now, I live in Liverpool in the UK and, sadly, my marriage has failed.

My wife of 10 years has anxiety, depression, and ADHD. We have three children, one has been diagnosed and one seems to have ADHD but has not yet been diagnosed. 

Hi, my partner was diagnosed with ADHD and was on medication and seeking help before I met him. He changed jobs during our relationship and chose to come off the meds as he was no longer covered with private health insurance.

We now have terrible rows. He goes from 0-100 in the space of a few seconds. Then he is like a dog with a bone. He won’t stop ranting. It’s awful. He’s not very good at empathising either or reflecting. 

The reason I’m still here is because he is incredibly lovely. He has changed so much over our time together in a good way. 

in case anyone is looking for a last minute Christmas gift idea, I just found the perfect one for my ADHD husband, that I think will also help our relationship! haha

I’ll just start by saying I’m in therapy and I have been.  My plan is to tell my therapist Thursday that  we need to start working on my anger/frustration/resentment exclusively for a while.

The reason for that is that my husband made a relatively minor forgetful omission, and we had words about it at the dinner table.   Our 3 year old said “Mommy punishing you, Daddy” which broke my heart. We don’t even punish our son so I’m not sure where he got that.  We usually try not to have discussion in front of him.

After almost 15 yrs of a rocky marriage and 2 kids (one of  whom has ADHD), I fear the flooding my husband experiences is going to end our marriage.  I’ve tried to tolerate it.  His defense is that it only happens once in a while so I shouldn’t hold that against him or carry it as baggage in our relationship.  But, I can’t.  I’m not built for this.  He is a wonderful man with a kind heart and all the morals and good values any wife would look for.  And when he’s not held hostage by his quick temper, he is helpful and fun and attentive.

My husband has not been successful with any conventional ADHD medications. We have tried several alternative treatments and are still searching for solutions. 

I would encourage you to consider trying this over the counter supplement. My husband has been using it for about three weeks and has experienced some promising results. 

This was a question I was trying to find out when we were planning to enter marriage counseling but H sabotaged that so now we are no longer going. I did manage to ask before we ended therapy, how do I tell if he is in an ADD moment, selfish bad behavior due to poor upbringing, pain due to past spinal chord injury 25 years ago? So many issues which am I dealing with. The psychiatrist he WAS seeing said it is not my job he needs to express what the problem is. I told him given the fact communication is non existent with him I don't see that happening but ok.