So my family is going through a crisis. Long story very very short, my daughter was sexually taken advantage of, and now, she thinks she may be pregnant from that encounter. Shes a great kid, and is going through a very scary, very upsetting time right now.
My husband is being a complete jerk, as usual. His feelings are the most important things in the world right now, and while i understand that stress makes everyone on edge, he is actively antagonizing me. Apparently i dont have enough on my plate!
In the interest of full disclosure, I must admit that I found this site because I was creeping on my ADHD husband. More specifically, I was searching (and frantically I might add) variations on a screen name that I found earlier that day connected to email accounts, connected to dating/porn/sex sites. This is one of the sites that popped up, and by the way, as if I needed to feel anymore like Alice going down the rabbit hole, I saw that his ex-wife had posted and directed my husband to this site while they were married!
In my attempt to recognize (be aware) the warning signs, triggers, and common themes that surround conflict in my marriage, a few things are startling clear....Probably 85 or 90% of our worst conflict revolves around activities, 75% of these or outside the home (acceptance, and avoiding enabling has really helped on the day to day things in the home)...What I've come to realize is in many (if not most) peoples mind, they experience a loss of awareness when emotions are heightened or when they experience a peak in focus or desire for or in an activity, (and were talking most anything)....The
Hi, this is my first time posting but I'm in a real mess everything has escalated for so long we just can't seem to get good ground my wife's anger outbursts doesn't help anything she's had one several times in the last couple of weeks. My stepson father just committed suicide they both have ADHD. I love my wife I love my step-son I don't want to lose this marriage I just don't know what to do.
Ambigamy. Noun. A relationship that defies classification. Can be short term or may last years.
I am he as you are he as you are me
And we are all together
See how they run like pigs from a gun see how they fly
I'm crying
My wife (non-ADHD) and I have been struggling through miscommunications and blow-ups for most of our 7-year marriage. If things aren't at rock-bottom right now then I don't know what to call this. I've tried to take a step back to reflect and think hard about this, and I know that the next two steps have to be (1) identifying and working on my own feelings and self-love, and (2) showing empathy, listening and understanding for her.
My husband and I have been together 13 years. We've been through it all. Many years ago, he mentioned something about having ADHD. Neither of us thought much of it and that was the end of that. Fast forward to now and we're both seeing it so clear. He has yet to be officially diagnosed, but I am 100% certain he has it. Everything I've read describes him to a 't'. For the past few years or so, I've thought he was a full on narcissist. It wasn't until recently that I realized its his ADHD. However, I don't know how much more I can take. He lies and lies and lies...you get the point.
From one of my favorite movies.... my favorite scene in the movie. The "Hero's Journey" of Neo....the "One".....becoming one with his enemy, the Matrix. For me, it's always been a source of inspiration. enjoy
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