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Feelings.  Emotions.  Holidays.  Family.  Consistency, or rather my own expectations and hopes of consistency. 

One sure thing I have realized, in my day to day living, there is consistent inconsistency.   

I am trying to sort out stuff this morning - emotions?  Feelings? Does it really matter which is which?  What happened to spark such internal discord in the pit of my stomach this morning. . . . . . . .

Just a quick post about failure.  I just read this under marriage tips in this forum ...

“Epic failure is part of being human, and it’s definitely part of being married. It’s part of what being alive means, occasionally screwing up in expensive ways. And that’s part of what marriage means, sometimes hating this other person but staying together because you promised you would. And then, days or weeks later, waking up and loving him again, loving him still.”
-Ada Calhoun, NY Times

I realize that this is the wrong forum for this topic. I wanted to put it here so more of you would see it. If the moderator needs to delete it or move it, I understand.

i just want to encourage all of you not to give up hope. Please consider seeking out a counselor that utilizes neurofeedback in his/her practice. My son (ADHD/ODD) and husband (ADHD)have been receiving neurofeedback treatments off and on since June. I can honestly say that the dynamics of our family have dramatically improved!!

I have been married for almost 27 years, and my husband has just been officially diagnosed with ADHD.  Though I have been in and out of counseling, both with and without my husband, to try and find some answers and personal peace, I never thought to consider ADHD as something that was affecting my marriage.  My husband has started counseling to help him understand and manage his symptoms.  His focus is primarily on himself and has little to do with our marriage.  Out of curiosity, I started googling articles on ADHD and marriage, and I was shocked to find out that my husband and I have a "t

The Pygmalion effect, or Rosenthal effect, is the phenomenon whereby higher expectations lead to an increase in performance.   A corollary of the Pygmalion effect is the golem effect, in which low expectations lead to a decrease in performance;

One evening, an elderly Cherokee brave told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, “My son, the battle is between ‘Two Wolves’ inside us all. One is evil. It is anger, envy jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego. The other is good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.

I'm almost afraid to ask. This is my first time posting, I've lurked here and there, DH was diagnosed ADHD a couple of months ago, we go back to the Dr. next week to discuss treatment. I will be insisting on medication, and filling it 2 seconds after the appointment. If I don't see some change in him, I'm done, I can't do this anymore. Counseling won't work for him, he'll just tell the councilor to go F him/herself. So, my hopes are all on the medications. What are your experiences with them? Good and bad.

Thanks, Jeana

Has anyone else had this experience with their ADHD spouse?  Things are going well right now...for a while now.  But I just cannot relax into it.  I am only about 85% invested because the other shoe is sure to drop at some point so I have to save a little bit of myself so I won't be totally leveled when the bottom drops out again.  Right now DH is helping around the house a ton, being a great dad, keeping in touch with me when he travels, really all around good man.

"His tantrums are killing me!"   This may seem dramatic but I suspect this group may understand.   Im a newlywed of nearly 3 months.  I knew something was off during our 2 years of dating. I racked my brain, I read, I researched... I called in his mother to help with some of the situations ( big mistake, but I still hold on to the fact that I had no other option at the time).  The issues weren't completely clear.  He was over his head with a failing business, a business that his family, including his brother ran together.