I have been toying with the idea of a separation/divorce from my ADHD husband for a few months now but I can't seem to come to a solid conclusion. We have been married nearly 4 years, together 6. He is a generous, kind man and a fun person to hang out with. When we met, he had all kinds of dreams and ambitions for the future, which I mistakenly took as realistic and achievable plans.
If you knew everything you would go through, would you still have made the choice to stay?
I have lurked for months, coming here to read when I needed to feel like I wasn't alone and also to get perspective. I will often read about the challenges some of you face and think to myself, "I can't post here. Things aren't bad enough and my complaints will be insulting to those who have real issues." I've finally decided to post because I can't hold it in anymore. I have to talk to someone. This will be long and I hope at least one person will be patient enough to read it.
Dear all,
NICE AND HAPPY to JOIN THIS FORUM.
I WOULD LIKE TO ASK IF SOMEONE KNOW THIS SITUATION: Husband with ADHD and wife HSP. What to do? What works? I am new in this FORUM and I have just discovered it.
Thank You so much.
Hello I am a non ADHD partner. I came to this forum for some encouragement and some insight. I so rarely see any post of positivity and it's very discouraging. Yes I understand that being the non ADHD partner can be frustrating and there is little to be understood when you aren't living in at they live everyday. I have had my moments where I want to cry, but it's because I want to understand and I can't. I am not in his head everyday to even fathom what struggles he faces every single day. i can only imagine how frustrated they become when I can't understand what is going on. But I try .
We have been married for 13 years and my husband has ADHD-inattentive type. It is like living with an Alzheimer's patient. Scary part is his mother past away from Alzheimer's.
Hello all, I've been seeing this guy for about a month, and we've been exclusive a couple weeks. In the beginning I was blown away by the attention and sensitivity he showed towards me. Our connection felt otherworldly, it was like love at first sight, something I had never experienced before and was never expecting to find. He told me pretty much right from the start about his ADHD, in addition to depression, and I didn't give it much thought. I guess I was incredibly ignorant. My perception of ADD/ADHD was of the rambunctious child in the classroom who couldn't sit still.
NON ADHD spouse in Denial
My husband was recently diagnosed with ADHD, on the heels of having our 5 year old son diagnosed as well. After some acceptance of his overall diagnosis and a lot of pushback on the treatment end, my husband is slowly coming around to recognizing he needs to work on things. While he has done well career-wise, he's in denial that seeking treatment for his ADHD could drastically improve things at home. We are participating in Melissa Orlov's ADHD in Marriage seminar via phone and he seems to be somewhat coming to terms with having to work on things. I've already told my husband that this
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