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My husband was diagnosed with ADHD after I discovered him lying to me to my face and  I insisted he seek help.He went to therapists, psychiatrist , we went to couples therapy and I went to therapy as well.He got on medication and it worked beautifully for him. He divulged a habit of lying since childhood to compensate for learning issues and shame. He revealed he had been telling "little lies" about stupid stuff like coming home early to de-stress watch stupid tv. Off shopping saying he was working.

My spouse and I are in the midst of a divorce, and he is not communicating at all: not responding to any emails, voicemail messages, or U.S. mail. Lack of communication has always been an issue but now I think and feel that it's very possible he'll never speak to me again. I don't know if he has been communicating with our adult children, but I'm concerned that he might be shutting them out, too. I'm having a hard time coping with this. Any suggestions for adjusting to this situation?

Easter Sunday we will have 20 people here. We have a big house.  H's "areas" that I try to let him have to his content are "hoarding rooms" and are dirty including his office, his bathroom and his rec room.  (He also has the garage and sheds and rented storage buildings where he pays for his rusty dirty "valuables" to be stored until he can "sell" it all at a profit. When our extended family comes to visit I used to clean the entire house including organizing in piles and washing all his areas.

Need advice on how to better react/handle my boyfriends oversharing.

Hello to everyone and I admit that I’ve been a lurker on this site for about a month. And I've really been inspired enough to finally post. Where to begin?? Wow, what a question. There are so many places I can start and I could literally write a book (and won’t), but I will begin that I’ve been married now for twenty years and have two kids that are the back half of them leaving the nest. We are of Christian faith and I’ve been fortunate that my job is in sales and I’ve been able to use my creativity to hold my job for over 15 years – but I know now that I can be so much better!

I have been seeing a wonderful man for nearly 2 years. He is 35; I'm much older. I love him very much and (as much as anyone can know another's heart and mind) truly believe the feeling is mutual. I have seen many signs that point to adult ADHD and these have accumulated to the point where I feel I need to bring up the topic of ADHD with him and ask whether he thinks this may be the cause of some of our relationship issues and his life challenges generally.

My husband was diagnosed in 2009 at age 35. It explained a lot at the time and he started on medication and therapy.

It has been a struggle for him since and on our marriage. I don't know the details of which medications were tried and what dose as I have not gotten involved in his treatment. However, i have noticed a significant change in his behavior over the last year, maybe year and a half. I now know he is on Vyvanse but don't know when he started (i think about that timeframe) or the dose (I know it has been increasing). I know he is also on an anti-depressant.

I don't know if it will stick, but I am so scared and devastated. I tried for so long to work with him on everything. But the broken promises and lack of empathy are just too much. I'm only now realizing how deep the selfishness runs. I have literally no one to talk to. There's too much I could say about this, and not enough energy to type it out. I feel blasted on the inside. I'm scared for what's to come, and how it will effect our children. I'm very raw right now. 11 years of trying for nothing.

I met my husband mid-2012, we dated aggressively for several months- his best friend and his best friend's fiance said we were perfect together and pressured him to ask me to be his girlfriend. During this time while we were not official he was also talking/flirting/hanging out with other women. He was not ready to settle for anything and the more I wanted him to commit to me the less he would try. So I let him go, hurt, and went on my way for a bit.