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Here is a question I have not seen addressed here, but my apologies if it has been and I missed it.  IF the non-ADHD person is in fact willing to make ALL the adjustments, have "the right mind set", be able to shoulder the majority of the responsibilities without resentment, how in the world do you treat your spouse like an equal and not in a pitying, patronizing way?  I really struggle wit this.  My DH can manage very little, even medicated, so the bulk of everything in our lives is on me.  How can I think of him as an equal when this is the case?

The unclear communication with an ADHD DH is just unbelievable.  In the past week--listen to some of the things that went on.  DH started a new job literally on Monday.  Monday-Tuesday-Wednesday he was in California for training and then back home to start working Thursday and Friday.  On Thursday he left for his job after I had already left, so I was long gone before he left.  On Thursday night I asked him what time he had to leave for work on Friday.  He tells me same time as this morning.  BUT I wasn't home when he left, so how would I know that.

Yesterday was my niece's wedding.  My spouse indeed remembered to get a haircut, and even took me up on an offer to iron his dress shirt.  

My ADHD husband and I are in the beginning stages of a divorce after  29 years.  We have a 15 year old son.  After two years of trying to get him and us to get some help he left.  The thing is, we still have a minor child.  We need to communicate and be able to work together.  It was very bitter for a while after he left.

Not married, but been living with girlfriend (6 years now), she was diagnosed with ADHD in her 30s, we both just turned 50.  Our house has always been chaotic mess with room- and hall-blocking clutter from all of her unfinished "projects".

My spouse has ADHD as well as other things (anxiety, depression, ??).  He is a full-time caregiver for his elderly parents.  An example of what this entails is that his mother, who has Alzheimer's disease, needs assistance with toileting, and she is resistant to the diaper and clothing changes.  Meanwhile, his father, who also has health issues but is mentally competent, is, like my husband, depressed and feels hopeless.