My ADHD husband and I are in the beginning stages of a divorce after 29 years. We have a 15 year old son. After two years of trying to get him and us to get some help he left. The thing is, we still have a minor child. We need to communicate and be able to work together. It was very bitter for a while after he left.
Not married, but been living with girlfriend (6 years now), she was diagnosed with ADHD in her 30s, we both just turned 50. Our house has always been chaotic mess with room- and hall-blocking clutter from all of her unfinished "projects".
My spouse has ADHD as well as other things (anxiety, depression, ??). He is a full-time caregiver for his elderly parents. An example of what this entails is that his mother, who has Alzheimer's disease, needs assistance with toileting, and she is resistant to the diaper and clothing changes. Meanwhile, his father, who also has health issues but is mentally competent, is, like my husband, depressed and feels hopeless.
Sigh. I knew he was going to forget too. I told H Monday evening that my department get together was Tuesday after work. I purposely told him when I had his full attention and he wasn't watching tv or surfing the internet. He said "Oh that sounds like fun. I'll just work late tomorrow then." Well I checked his clock out time online and he didn't work any later than usual. I sent him a text at 4:30 saying "I'm off for wine and apps. See you in a few hours".
after years of therapy, and 22 years of bullying and the roller coaster that I've come to learn is ADD without the Hyperactivity component, I convinced my husband that this evaluation and diagnosis could save our marriage. Additionally, our children are learning to behave like him, and they're just horrible!! Unfortunately time passed before the appointment, his interested lessened, and he manipulated the situation so that I couldn't go with him. He came home and said the therapist told him you can't diagnose an adult with ADD if they were not diagnosed as a child. He said my husband li
I decided yesterday I was taking back my life after four years of marriage.
What I have come to know and understand is a difference in perception of events in my marriage.
I like things neat and tidy - not obsessive - and things put away when they are finished being used. My spouse likes everything right out where he can find it. The counter is a landing spot for anything and everything.
The trick is learning to find a way that both partners can feel comfortable.
I get very frustrated by the amounts of stuff in the backyard and oozing out of the barn. My spouse does not understand why I am bothered by his stuff.
Hello,
I've been wondering what the long-term effects of angry outbursts are on children. By angry outbursts I mean yelling, pounding fists on things, maybe a curse words at anything from spilled water to traffic jams, to cars not going fast enough, power outages etc. They can happen once daily sometimes more or less, depending on the mood. How does this affect young children who witness this behavior from their ADHD father? Would like to hear from anyone. If you experienced it as a child or with your children who are now grown up, would like to hear that as well!
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