My husband and I meant almost ten years ago. From the moment I met him I knew he was the one. He was charming, handsome, social, outgoing, and incredibly artistic. He was the most sensitive man I had met, adored me, and I felt connected in ways I had never experienced.
Hi everyone! I'm new to this site, and just starting on what I know will probably not be an easy road. Since I'm not sure where to start, exactly, I'll give you the "jist" of my/our background.
Hello,
Good afternoon,
I'm new to this forum.
I am 25, I work full time, take classes online, and I'm a single mom to a three year old.
Some how, I manage to stay afloat. Barely. Meds help, and having some sort of a system help me as well.
The part that I have the most trouble containing emotions and impulsivness is dating. I am dating someone who lives about an hour away, we only see each other every other weekend when we both don't have our children.
Hi everyone,
I am new to the subject of ADHD and marriage, and new to the idea that my husband has ADHD, but the more I read the more sense it makes. I hope to find comradery and hope from those of you out there who have been/are in these shoes. It is a terrible feeling to feel alone in the battle, and to question if the problem is you, your husband, or both. We have been together for over 7 years, but we have been married for just over 6 months.
Arrgh! It makes me so ANGRY! He said he was going to take the cat to the vet and call and electrician. He didn't even step outside to get the mail! I come home to the kitchen garbage overflowing, the kitchen recycle bucket overflowing, dirty dishes sitting on the counter rather than the dishwasher, the cats wanting to be fed all while he's in the computer room playing his damn video game that he has no doubt been playing nonstop all day! Oh and I just love the one thing he always does. He'll turn on the furnace and then within 10 minutes open up windows so the cats can smell the outside!
I am very fortunate to live in a city where there are two ADHD-focused counselors who do both ADHD coaching and couples therapy around ADHD. I know that for traditional therapy, your personal therapist should be separate from your marriage counselor. Do you think that goes for ADHD coaches too, or is coaching different enough from traditional therapy that it doesn't matter? I already have a mental health therapist that will remain separate from the coaching piece, so I don't anticipate my coach becoming my mental health therapist.
Hello lovely people; thank you for reading my post!
I have never known anyone to do absolutely nothing on a 10 day break! My husband is on day 6 of his break and he has not done one thing. The only thing he accomplishes is napping, eating, drinking, watching tv and playing video games. And the thing is, I can tell he is absolutely bored but he won't do anything about it. He went to bed at 6PM on Christmas because he was "tired of sitting at the computer and in front of the tv". I had 5 days in a row off and in that time we could have taken day trips or gotten some projects done around the house.
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