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Three long years and very slight improvement? ok maybe on my behalf,i had to learn "his way" follow "his way" or else i would be running out of labels...Fact remains,(HE WOULD NEVER CHANGE)...In order for my marriage to work i had to change my way of understanding to value his,my way of motivation to stand along side him,my way of every single thing to accommodate his way..

Hello! It's nice to find this site. I will apologize for the rambling from the start. I just want to give facts.  I was professionally diagnosed with ADD about 2.5 years ago. I felt for a LONG time there was something wrong with me that I could not control. I am now 54 years old and have been married and divorced 3 times. My first marriage was right out of college and lasted for 2 years, no children. I didn't get along with his girlfriend.

I'm sorry but I feel the need to vent today.  Even if nobody reads this it makes me feel better.  :)

How do you know if someone with ADHD really does care/love you?  This has been on my mind lately.  Is it the self-centered-ness of ADHD or does he just not care?  The question I have asked myself for years except before the ADHD diagnosis it was is there something wrong with his brain or does he just not care about us?  Knowing it is ADHD has helped somewhat, but the behaviors are still there.  I've seen this trait mentioned in other posts and I experience the same thing.  My dh says he loves and cares about us but does not show it in any way.  The other day our dd had an event at school, a

Hello everyone,

I have just been broken up by an ADHD girlfriend. This girl has an amazing soul and I love her a lot but her disorder has definitely taken its toll on the relationship. I will try to be brief
 

- for the first years of her life she was subject to very harsh treatment by her parents, unaware of ADHD, especially her father, since it was only diagnosed later

- she grew up with severe learning disabilities which were softened with medication (Concerta) and a lot of support at school

I am in a running battle with my ADHD husband about the back porch. He wants to enclose it as an office. He knows NOTHING about building construction, but yet INSISTS he can do this. I have put my foot down and said ABSOLUTELY NOT because of the permits, the building codes and knowing FULL WELL what it's going to look like when he gets "done" with it.

     There are already at least 2 dozen projects around the house that have yet to be completed, and they have been staring us in the face for years now. I CAN'T HANDLE ANOTHER UNDONE PROJECT....ESPECIALLY A GREAT BIG ONE.

Does anyone know about Dr. Leon Eisenberg (the father of ADHD) said on his deathbed that he "made up ADHD". He also said the condition was for the selling of pharmaceuticals and to make drug companies richer and not for the well being of children. Does anyone KNOW about this? Maybe you Melissa? What do you make of this?

I KNOW FOR A FACT, that my husband DOES have ADHD, due to the change in him from the medications, AND from the hereditary conditions his family members had. But, WHY would this Dr. who supposedly STARTED the diagnosis of ADHD, then say it was a ficticious disease?

I love my husband, I really do. He is a great guy and for the most part I love our life together. 

But I'm at a loss right now as to handle his career unemployment and the way he views himself with grace. 

I work from  home and make a very good living. He handles the household stuff. It works pretty well. 

Dh is EXTREMELY a perfectionist when it come to GARBAGE.  He pulls everything apart and categorizes the garbage.  He has pails and boxes lining all the walls in our garage with things he thinks he has to process by taking out every nut and bolt and saving them.   He told me I MUST wash out "with soap" all the empty jars and glasses and soak and peel the labels off of them before throwing them away.  He spends most of every Saturday "processing" the garbage. His side of the garage is like a hoarder's - filled to the brim and no room for his car.