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I'm wondering if anyone has advice on helping a (suspected) ADHD spouse pay attention to/understand the financial "big picture" in a relationship. For most of our 2 1/2-year marriage, I have been the sole breadwinner, bill payer, and overall tracker of our finances. I have struggled to get my husband to show any interest in how much money we have each month vs. how much we spend.

I don't know if this has been done in other threads, and I don't have time to go find out. Along the lines of Ned Hollowell's great article — in which he tries to explain what it's like to have ADD/ADHD — I thought it'd be interesting to hear how other folks explain their experiences with ADD/ADHD. So finish one of the two statements below:

1.) Having ADD/ADHD is like ...

2.) Living with an ADD/ADHD person is like ...

Fingers crossed.

Ok, here we go.  Grab some popcorn or other snack item...

THIS FIRST PART IS OUR HISTORY ACCORDING TO ME...YOU CAN SKIP TO OUR CURRENT STATE OF AFFAIRS...

Hello Everyone!,

My husband’s job reduced his salary over a year ago and he did not tell me. We split joint account and contribute a percentage of our incomes to the acct to cover our expenses. He earns a lot less so his amount is less. This system was suggested by our family counselor bc he has been so inconsistent with financial contributions the past decade plus of our marriage.

Friday, Saturday and Sunday.  Wow.  I'm So Exhausted is exhausted.

Something is brewing around here.  

First, my ADHD spouse picked an argument with our 24 year old son a few days back.  

Then he decided had to let me know about it.  

I recently finished reading "The ADHD Effect on Marriage" and have been searching the forums as well to learn more about ADHD and parenting.  I haven't found a similar experience to mine, so maybe it has little to do with ADHD, but I'll put it out there in the hopes someone has dealt with it and found some solutions.

Hello to this wonderful group,

I read Melissa's book and found this forum last summer. Have only now found the nerve to officially "join" and post. I was married for 14 years (no kids) and when it ended in 2011, I vowed that I would not make the same mistakes again. I haven't, yet I've made a whole slew of new, perhaps worse, mistakes.