Why is it Ok for him (he has ADHD) to forget everything, but if I forget something it's a catastrophe? Why is it OK for him to feel overwhelmed because he has 1,000 thoughts running through his head, but it's not OK for me to feel overwhelmed?
Maybe this thread has already been done, but I have another question in which an ADHD person may be breaking things. Do other ADHD'ers break stuff? My ADHD husband is always breaking things, and has ever since I met him. Most of the time he shrugs it off, but it has cost us an unbelievable amount of money in replacing items that he breaks. You NAME IT, he's broken it. Every time we get an item where there is some "assembly required", the item gets put together backwards or upsidedown, or gets broken completely, but, if someone ELSE breaks something, he goes ballistic.
I am not sure if my Husband has ADHD or what but I am SO FED UP with this constant not going to work!! He works for a union and has been at his job for almost 6 years. When he found out about FMLA during his 3rd year that's when things took a turn for the worse. He tells his doctor he's got back issues, which he does, but they certainly don't keep him from working. His doctor doesn't seem to care when he comes in asking for a note saying why he missed so many days. He is supposed to be limited to 2 days a month off.
Does anyone else have to deal with this ADHD trait, and if so, how do you deal with it. My ADHD husband will say something 50 to 100 times or more before he actually DOES the thing he's talking about. One such incident is spray killing the weeds in the front yard, which he talked about for weeks ahead of time. Finally he puts up some sticks and string around the piece of yard he is putting the weed killer on, but STILL DIDN'T put down the weed killer.
Thank you in advance for reading this. I am having a real hard time with marriage. My husband has anxiety and takes medication for it. I also think he has ADHD, but he argues that it doesn't exist. Please let me know if you agree with me. He makes NO plans at all with life with me. The only things he mentions are things he likes to do, fishing and watching movies. As far as planning for kids, I do All of it.
My ADHD husband always has excuses as to why he can't do things. I'm just about at the end of my rope! He has told me to give him lists of things that need to be done around the house but when I do he rarely completes the tasks. Yesterday I emailed him a list while i was at work. He received the list at 10am and said he would be happy to do everything I asked and have it done before I got home. The chores amounted to about 30 minutes of work and yet when I got home at 3pm nothing had really been done. He did unload the dishwasher but never finished putting anything away. He put a few
My husband received his diagnosis this week, and him and my son have taken off to visit his mother for the weekend. As I do research and read read read I'm having floods of realizations wash over me, it all makes sense. One of the things that I've felt so strongly for so long (we've been together for 10 years) is a strong sense of loneliness, and as though he never truly engages me in conversation, or is capable of empathy.
When my spouse first asked me on a date 32 years ago, I was in awe. I could not believe he wanted to take me out. He was tall, blue eyed, and handsome. I was shy, awkward, and disliked myself intensely. Our first date was to an expensive dinner theatre. On the way, he talked about his life. He was engaged to someone else - but not FORMALLY, as in 'no ring yet' - and he wanted to make some new friends (That was me - the new friend.)
He said - she said. To this day he insists he never said the word engaged.
I have been dating someone with ADD for about 6 months. At first it was amazing, and I couldn’t imagine why anyone would have hesitations about dating someone with ADHD. My family was dismayed about how much time we seemed to be spending together and how fast the relationship seemed to be moving.
About 3 months ago he started going to school full time – in addition to his full time job, his part time job and his myriad of other hobbies. In that time, I feel like our relationship has gone from a whirlwind fairy tale to seriously stressed.
I have recently made the decision to leave my ADHD Husband because I'm so overwhelmed and exhausted after nearly 4 years together (2 1/2 married). From the very beginning I never felt like we had a true partnership or a courtship. We rushed into moving in together and we rushed into marriage which hurt our relationship a lot. My Husband was only diagnosed with ADHD about 3 months ago, but the problems caused by his symptoms have been present for our entire relationship.
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