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We are 5 months into our marriage. We were together for 2 1/2 years before the wedding. He told me about his ADD upfront. I wrote it off, not understanding it at the time, or the immeasurable impact that it would have on our lives together. Although he knew that he had ADD, he was not doing anything to manage it. This contributed to his overdrinking on a regular basis. During the course of dealing with that nightmare, our relationship nearly fell apart and I finally started reading about ADD and realized that he was self medicating with alcohol.

     The hardest thing now, with my adhd husband, is never being able to talk about myself in any way, shape or form. I can't tell him how I feel about something, (ANYTHING), or any opinions, or even maybe something silly. I have to keep EVERYTHING to myself and only talk about him and what HE  wants to talk about. When I DO get to jump in a conversation, he listens for about 30 seconds before turning the conversation back to himself.

I'm wondering if anyone has advice on helping a (suspected) ADHD spouse pay attention to/understand the financial "big picture" in a relationship. For most of our 2 1/2-year marriage, I have been the sole breadwinner, bill payer, and overall tracker of our finances. I have struggled to get my husband to show any interest in how much money we have each month vs. how much we spend.

I don't know if this has been done in other threads, and I don't have time to go find out. Along the lines of Ned Hollowell's great article — in which he tries to explain what it's like to have ADD/ADHD — I thought it'd be interesting to hear how other folks explain their experiences with ADD/ADHD. So finish one of the two statements below:

1.) Having ADD/ADHD is like ...

2.) Living with an ADD/ADHD person is like ...

Fingers crossed.

Ok, here we go.  Grab some popcorn or other snack item...

THIS FIRST PART IS OUR HISTORY ACCORDING TO ME...YOU CAN SKIP TO OUR CURRENT STATE OF AFFAIRS...

Hello Everyone!,

What is this constant pushing thing? Its like he mocks the tone of my voice mocks what I say or do...even mocks my 8years olds voice??? When I tell him he is pushing me. I try to explain he is crossing the line. Like too much poking fun sarcasm mocking like hyper mode. I ask him to stop he keeps going. Or says ok I will stop then turn around do it again for the last 2 days. We do havw alot going on right now and are separating actually.

My husband’s job reduced his salary over a year ago and he did not tell me. We split joint account and contribute a percentage of our incomes to the acct to cover our expenses. He earns a lot less so his amount is less. This system was suggested by our family counselor bc he has been so inconsistent with financial contributions the past decade plus of our marriage.

Friday, Saturday and Sunday.  Wow.  I'm So Exhausted is exhausted.

Something is brewing around here.  

First, my ADHD spouse picked an argument with our 24 year old son a few days back.  

Then he decided had to let me know about it.