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Hello Everyone!,

What is this constant pushing thing? Its like he mocks the tone of my voice mocks what I say or do...even mocks my 8years olds voice??? When I tell him he is pushing me. I try to explain he is crossing the line. Like too much poking fun sarcasm mocking like hyper mode. I ask him to stop he keeps going. Or says ok I will stop then turn around do it again for the last 2 days. We do havw alot going on right now and are separating actually.

My husband’s job reduced his salary over a year ago and he did not tell me. We split joint account and contribute a percentage of our incomes to the acct to cover our expenses. He earns a lot less so his amount is less. This system was suggested by our family counselor bc he has been so inconsistent with financial contributions the past decade plus of our marriage.

Friday, Saturday and Sunday.  Wow.  I'm So Exhausted is exhausted.

Something is brewing around here.  

First, my ADHD spouse picked an argument with our 24 year old son a few days back.  

Then he decided had to let me know about it.  

I recently finished reading "The ADHD Effect on Marriage" and have been searching the forums as well to learn more about ADHD and parenting.  I haven't found a similar experience to mine, so maybe it has little to do with ADHD, but I'll put it out there in the hopes someone has dealt with it and found some solutions.

Hello to this wonderful group,

I read Melissa's book and found this forum last summer. Have only now found the nerve to officially "join" and post. I was married for 14 years (no kids) and when it ended in 2011, I vowed that I would not make the same mistakes again. I haven't, yet I've made a whole slew of new, perhaps worse, mistakes.

I'd love to hear some positive stories from today. As we know, ADHD can be used to come up with some very creative and romantic memories. What did your loved one do for you today that reminded you how much you loved him/her? Positive stories only please. Leave negative stuff in the Slug Box.

The Perfect Love

by Ruth Myers

Do any of you ever find that your ADD spouse remembers conversations incorrectly, and then becomes upset when things don't work out how they remembered it should? It happens so often in my house that I sometimes feel as though I'm being "gaslighted". The only way I can see to prevent the problem is to record (either digitally or handwritten) every major conversation we have - but then I fear DH becoming defensive ("What do you mean, you've been keeping track?")

A very good friend of mine is enduring problems much like mine in her marriage.  Although her spouse does not, as far as we know, have ADHD, he does seem to have a personality or character disorder that has manifested in similar ways as my spouse's ADHD and related disorders (depression, anxiety, oppositional behavior).  My friend and I both struggle with moving forward while bearing the burden of being the main breadwinners, parents, and housekeepers in our families, either without our husbands' emotional and physical contributions or with them behaving in openly contrary ways.