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I'm a 26 year old male with ADHD. My wife and i met 7 years ago at work, were dating for 6 months then engaged, stuff progressed fairly quick, were married six months after that. two months after marriage my wife was pregnant with  our first child. I Spent my 21st birthday at home with a pregnant wife, went through kind of a crisis, tried to prepare for our first by buying a house, two cars and so on.

I am finally ready to get off this ADHD merry go round, exhausted and disorientated with life.  My husband has so many great qualities but I cannot cope with the instability of our relationship any longer. It is like having a cross awkward, dopey child one minute and an overexcited child with tunnel vision the next. I never feel I can rely on him to be a husband that I can turn to, for him to take the lead.  He is wonderfully loving to me and my children but has caused us so much pain. Cheating, drugs, alcohol, lying...you name it he's put us through it.

This may be a long shot, but just curious if there is, perhaps, a commonality with this like there has been with so many other things among us all.

Do any of your ADHD partners often get sick/or are often just always feeling a bit "off"?

My ex-BF seemed to be sick so often (it was long distance so obviously hard for me to ascertain).  He very often had headaches, heartburn, felt foggy...he caught colds easily and often had stomach issues.  He also had a sleep disorder and if able, would often sleep for 12-16+ hour stretches.

Yesterday, I finally took that dive off the diving board.  I told my husband of 2.5 years that I was moving to Georgia to be close to my parents and my brother and his family.   Like so many non ADHD spouses, my relationship with him has been very difficult.  I went from being the center of the world for 3 months to nothing overnight.  I probably should have run then, but I kept coming back.  I have known him for more than half my life (I will be 39 this year) and we reconnected after many years of no contact.  We used to be the best of pals, and then things developed into something more ab

Hello,

I'm hoping  someone can shed some light on my situation.

I have been with my boyfriend for 10 years. We are both divorced with children (he has 2 girls and I have 2 boys). He is truly an amazing and wonderful person, father, boyfriend, son, uncle and brother. If I wrote down everything I wanted in a boyfriend he was it.

It struck me today how much my husband amuses me. Im not sure if its like this for other people, but ADHD makes my husband pretty spontaneous in his responses to questions and his actions. It's never ever boring or predictable.  Also, he seems perfectly okay with making good natured fun of himself and being silly just for the sake of being silly.

Hello everyone I have been reading through these forums for about a month now trying to work up the nerve to make a post and ask for help or advice, but I'm at a breaking point in my marriage and really need to know what a community of people who have experience with ADHD to possibly sort threw some of this mess.

My husband and I have been through our share of difficulties over the years. He was diagnosed with ADD in 2007 after three years of marriage. Didn't bother me much. We still had time and energy to spend time together and have sex and all that. The marriage seemed mostly fine. Two kids later we were on the brink of divorce. I developed the dreaded mommy brain, and keeping up with the house and kids was seriously debilitating. I was always in awe of how much my non-ADHD friends could get done and how calm and patient and consistent they were with their kids.

Ok, so what do I do?

This has gone on for most our 7-year marriage. Horrible, horrible unresolved arguments. Countless times that I have felt I have just wanted to get out. But I haven't. I guess it's the ADHD that's meant that I have been able to quickly forget, forgive and move on.

Ok, am I organised - no, am I forgetful - yes, do I follow through on what I say I am going to do,sometimes but never in the time scale my other half expects. Can I be tactless - yes. Am I socially awkward yes.

I've learned over the past 7 years of marriage to an ADHD man that it's very hard to not constantly supervise what he is doing.  This makes him angry, he says I'm bossy and always telling him what to do.  But so many times I have been burned by the consequences of letting him handle a situation on his own that it's very hard not to oversee everything all the time.  We are married so the mistakes he makes more often than not affect me too.  Because I'm his wife I can be held responsible for his bad decisions and his debt so it's hard not to make sure things are being done properly.  My H has