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I don't know if this song is in heavy rotation in all of your radio markets yet, but it is here and I feel it really expresses the anguish some of us are going through...not wanting to leave our ADHD partners, but feeling at the end of our rope.  And then silent or in denial...

I have not closed the door on my relationship, but it may have been closed for me.  2 weeks ago I left his house after a fight (he's pissed cuz he feels blamed for everything, I'm pissed cuz I feel neglected and feel he needs to get evaluated for ADHD...) and I have not heard from him since.

Hi everyone,

This is the first time I am seeking advise on a forum. I am 9 months pregnant and abandoned by ADHD husband four months ago. Basically he went to vacation to see his family abroad when I was 5 months pregnant and never returned. I had a bleeding episode while he was away and after contacting him he showed no emotional response or any concern, which I found extremely hurtful. In the heat of an argument I told him not to come back and he took the offer (very easily).

It's been a hard few days for me, but I have a new favorite joke.  I hope it makes you smile as you face the challenges of today.

"I have OCD and ADD - everything MUST be in it's place, but only for a little while."  ;-)

Happy Wednesday!

We have been married for 14 years.  I came into the marriage with a history of depression.  There is no question that the holidays have been a trigger of sorts bringing me into low moods.  However, my wife comes from a family significantly affected by ADHD.  She has all of the hallmarks of it - hyperfocus, distractibility, forgetfulness etc... 

I wanted to share this in case it's relevant and helpful for anyone else out there, and also because I'm so happy about it...

My relationship with my long-term ADHD-diagnosed partner has had the most remarkable breakthrough. 

It began when we read a book called "Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls" by Robert Burney. Then, individually, we did some telephone counselling with the author. There's also a website: www.joy2meu.com

Hello all.

How does one forgive?  I have separated from my husband and I feel confident that my decision to do so was wise.  But I realized tonight that the resentment and anger that I feel toward my husband are somewhat hindering my life.  I can't and don't want to forget that my husband did things that hurt me and that some of those actions were intended to hurt me.  But the resentment and anger also hurt me (and seem to have no effect on my husband).  Any suggestions?  Thank you.  

This is my first time posting but I've been reading this site for more than 4 years. I've been with my husband for 8 years, married for almost 4.  He has ADHD and is on medication.  He isn't hyperactive at all, but he has issues focusing and I'm guessing he has a learning disability as well.  Other than taking medication, he does little else to learn or understand his ADHD.  He never reads this site even though I've asked him to several times. 

My ADHD partner started taking Adderall for his ADHD about 18 months ago. He started at a low dose (20 mg, I think) and seemed to do well. He was much less forgetful, more focused, and seemed more productive and happier as a result. However, when he and his doctor decided that the dose was too low and upped it to 40 mg, I started noticing personality changes: wild mood swings, violent temper fits, paranoia, and general agitation, especially in the early am and late pm when the drug wasn't in full effect. I called his doctor with my concerns, but he quickly dismissed them.

Well I read many stories on this website only to be reminded of my own. I am 24, married for a little over two years to my husband. We have a beautiful 10 month old daughter together. After months of for myself, and depression diagnosis, from post partum to possible mild bipolar disorder. It just dawned on me today, that the only person in which i have deep white hot anger for is my husband!!!