I have just found this site and other information on marriage and adult ADHD and I can't believe how much rings true to my own experience over the last 9 years. I've been married for almost 8 years, and have two fantastic daughters, ages 2 and 4.
Hi, my story is probably similar to many others here: undiagnosed ADD that progresses to diagnosed but untreated ADD that progresses to a burnt out non-ADD spouse. A little over a year ago I completely lost my mind--years of financial strain b/c my husband couldn't maintain adequate self-employment and refusal to get a formal job, his "checked out" lack of presence as a husband and father (unless he wanted sex!), staying up late watching movies, refusal to get help for himself or us etc. etc.
Hi I'm new to this forum. Thanks for allowing me to contribute my story. My six year marriage has been on the rocks for awhile now. My wife has ADHD and I'm the non-ADHD spouse and it's been pretty awful. I believe that dating an ADHD person is really great but being married to an ADHD person is awful. And I'll explain why. When dating an ADHD person, they hyperfocus on the new relationship 100% and it feels really great! However, once the hyperfocus shifts to something else like a new career, then the ADHD person starts ignoring, abandoning, neglecting and abusing their partner. Th
My bf has adhd and im very interested in gettig him diagnosed. If anyone know a good psychiatrist pls advise me. Thank you so much!!!
Short version of my story goes like this:
My husband had ADHD, but he coped with it extremely well and made it work for him. He got a different job, and during a long night working on a project (spreadsheet stuff - not ADHD friendly) a friend, who also had ADHD, offered him adderall to "make it work." It worked incredibly well, but instead of seeking professional help, he started self medicating. Fast forward almost a year. My kids and I moved out when his adderall habit reached 200 mg daily and he lost control of his anger.
I will try not to ramble and for this to have some sort of flow, but I can not promise anything. Im 31 years old and recently (within) 2 weeks dx with ADHD-combined type. At first I thought it would be a relief to finally know "what was wrong with me", but it has only added to my stress.
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Hi All,
My boyfriend has been my best friend for 7 years, and we have been dating for over 2 years. We have a lot in common and care about each other deeply. When it comes to communication, not only are we stuck, it devolves into feelings being continually hurt on both sides. We can't seem to break through, and his reactions keep us stuck in the cycle.
I don't even know what just hit me. My husband and I sat down to listen to Session 3 of the couples seminar, and we were discussing our worksheets beforehand. During our anger worksheets discussion, I said that I answered one of the questions according to my resentment because I don't really have anger. He asked me what I was resentful for. Normally I would not answer because in the last 6-8 weeks, he has been very irritable, and little things set him off. But I figured--hey, we're having a nice honest talk, so I will try to explain.
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