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Dear ADD Husband:

I don't want you to leave.

But I think it would probably be the best thing for both of us.

I have a tremendous amount of anger and hurt and resentment and I know it has negatively impacted almost every interaction that we have/had.  I truly believe that a lot of those feelings have been generated by something that is beyond your control (adhd).  But I don't know how not to take it personally, nor do I know that I'd ever be able to learn how to.  Maybe I'm just not a big enough person.

Here is the situation - got a big family Halloween party on Saturday.  Looks like it will be cold and rainy so all guests will be in our house - which  is not huge. 

Still have cooking to do, party set-up, last minute cleaning.....

Hi,

I'm a 37 year old female and began trying stimulants this year for my ADD...

Here are some of my experiences, anyone had any similar?

Wondering if anyone else has skin/breakout issues from stimulant medications and if so, did your skin eventually get used to the meds and even out?  How about appetite, did that re-establish?  Anyone have any luck with natural remedies instead of prescription medications?

I do not have ADHD but my spouse and son both do. My husband recently lost his long time job and has these has these swings of being extremely high energy (wound up, acting childlike..making jokes all the time, singing or playing his guitar while I try to talk to him) OR he is low low..falling asleep in his chair, eyes droopy, etc.

Hi, 

Hello everyone, my first post in the forums.  My situation is a little complex, but I'm going to do my best to sum everything up as short as possible.

A little over a year ago, I volunteered for my state's State Defenses Force (state military) and currently serve in a search and rescue capacity.  My wife complains that my interest and therefore time and attention spent on the SDF snowballed into something she was completely unprepared for (par for the course for me, I guess).  Things had gotten really bad between us, and I feel like drill weekends were a welcome escape for me, and a symbol to my wife of the attention I was unable to focus on her.

A 4 hour casual wedding reception.

No alcohol.

Close to 200 guests.

432 cans of pop/soda in a variety of flavors.

2 hours into the reception, one flavor has only a few cans left.

There is still plenty of pop for the remaining 2 hours.  Over 200 cans in a variety of flavors.  Plus coffee.  Plus tea.  And guests are already slowly departing.

The Father of the Bride feels there is just not enough pop and leaves the reception to go purchase more.   He needed to go buy more.  He HAD to go buy more.

I am working hard at stopping the blame game and to stop being frustrated because of what other people do.  I am learning that for me to have self esteem, I get to trust my feelings and thoughts and to honor them.  I don't have to be held hostage by someone else's opinion of me or their thoughts or feelings. I am working hard at not feeling guilty for other people.  I do respect those who know what they want and honor themselves more than a wishy-washy indecisive coward....which is what I was turning in to. I am going to like myself again.

Today was one of those "this is THE day" days.  My ADHD spouse thinks our relationship is bent.  I think it is broken.  Our 29th anniversary last Sunday was only a date on the calendar.  For me - enough.

I drew up a list of 11 things "I" need to show our marriage is moving into a positive direction.  Some are negotiable - some are not.  He always says he is improving - I just can't see it.  I see him trying hard - but not in the areas that will improve our marriage.  

A few of the nonnegotiable are: