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Hello all,

I just happened upon this forum since I was searching the internet to find out why I leave the kitchen cabinet doors open whenever I cook.  I also jump out of my shoes when I come into the kitchen.  I do not have ADHD at all.  I know what ADHD is because my son has it.  I am not forgetful.  I am not a daydreamer.  I do not lose things.  I do not have any of the classic symptoms of ADHD and no one would ever suspect that it is something I have.

I have been dating this guy with ADHD for about a year and half now... 

it's been like a roller coaster... and at some point, he made me believe I am the one who needs therapy, I am the one who is needy, I am the one who blames everything on him.

We have been apart for the past several months, and we agreed there was no chance for this relationship if long distance. 

So, I landed a job and was about to move there, across the continent. 

 Well the day of reckoning has finally come.

I physically pay most of the family's bills but I ask my husband for (and usually receive) payment from him for his share of joint bills (mostly our daughters' expenses).  Right now, we're living separately, at my request.  

As usual, I had told my husband several weeks in advance how much he would owe me for joint bills for September.  I reminded him a few times.  He assured me he would pay in a timely fashion.

I am hoping to get some feedback from people who have experienced anything like the following:

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Not once in 20 years has my ADD dh asked, "How are you feeling? or What are you feeling?" I would really appreciate some feedback on how I can or should not approach the spouse with ADD regarding feedback.

My communication difficulties with my husband has been the same for the last twenty years. I will recommend things that are important for the two of us or our two boys but it will fall into the ether -- but if someone else says the same thing, it's pure gold and the TRUTH and has to be acted on right away.

I am brand new to all of this and I feel most days like I am losing my mind.  I'll tell you about how I met my husband and where we are now.  After reading these blogs for a couple of weeks, I am not sure how you all will respond, but I need help.

I came across this site after searching for information online about how to control my spouse's spending. It had never occurred to me that my husband might have ADHD, but after looking through the blog and forum posts a lot of it (thought not all) rings true to our situation.