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I am the somewhat obsessive spouse of ADD husband. I am trying very hard to grow out of the venting, complaining, unhappy person I have become. Here is what I am trying to learn and how I am trying to change my thoughts:
Hi Everybody,
Please help!
I am the non-ADHD male, and my ADHD girlfriend of two plus years has me at wits end.
I recently got married to the most wonderful man who treats me like gold. Geeez I am not sure where to start but I do have to fix my problem uncontrollable temper or my marriage will be over quickly. First off my husband lives In the USA and I'm in Canada , I am supposed to be moving there in a month ,that is if he ever forgives me :( I will tell you about this tantrum or whatever it's called, I turn into a monster, someone I don't like in the least I say hurtful things that I don't mean. Like this time he drove 6 hours to meet me.
I am married for over 30 years. About 8 years ago.. he found he has a good bit of ADHD .. now gets meds and sees a doc as a coach.
BUT.. his actions do not show that he is trying to help the marriage.
He is likely going bankrupt...he won't tell me enough about our money for me to know what is real and what he is just saying to scare me .
I have just found this site and other information on marriage and adult ADHD and I can't believe how much rings true to my own experience over the last 9 years. I've been married for almost 8 years, and have two fantastic daughters, ages 2 and 4.
Hi, my story is probably similar to many others here: undiagnosed ADD that progresses to diagnosed but untreated ADD that progresses to a burnt out non-ADD spouse. A little over a year ago I completely lost my mind--years of financial strain b/c my husband couldn't maintain adequate self-employment and refusal to get a formal job, his "checked out" lack of presence as a husband and father (unless he wanted sex!), staying up late watching movies, refusal to get help for himself or us etc. etc.
Hi I'm new to this forum. Thanks for allowing me to contribute my story. My six year marriage has been on the rocks for awhile now. My wife has ADHD and I'm the non-ADHD spouse and it's been pretty awful. I believe that dating an ADHD person is really great but being married to an ADHD person is awful. And I'll explain why. When dating an ADHD person, they hyperfocus on the new relationship 100% and it feels really great! However, once the hyperfocus shifts to something else like a new career, then the ADHD person starts ignoring, abandoning, neglecting and abusing their partner. Th
My bf has adhd and im very interested in gettig him diagnosed. If anyone know a good psychiatrist pls advise me. Thank you so much!!!
Short version of my story goes like this:
My husband had ADHD, but he coped with it extremely well and made it work for him. He got a different job, and during a long night working on a project (spreadsheet stuff - not ADHD friendly) a friend, who also had ADHD, offered him adderall to "make it work." It worked incredibly well, but instead of seeking professional help, he started self medicating. Fast forward almost a year. My kids and I moved out when his adderall habit reached 200 mg daily and he lost control of his anger.
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