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i am very frustrated and need advice, my boyfriend who have been with for almost a year has got ADHD he never talks about it also never talks face to face about his feelings. he gets very angry easily and says very hurtful things and calls me some terrible things. my mother and close friends say to finish it with him but i love him and i find it hard to let him go because when it is good it is amazing but when it is bad it is dreadful, we are in an argument now and it hurts so much especially the way he goes on.

I'm facing a very difficult decision right now. I am the ADHD spouse in the relationship (you can view my story here). I am 33 year old male that was diagnosed with ADHD in March this year. I decided to see if I was ADHD after reading Mrs. Orlov's book. My wife introduced me to it in September of last year but I didn't start reading it until January and it was like a revelation to me. Since diagnosis, we began seeing a marriage counselor that is experienced with ADHD and CBT.

This is my very first post. I stumbled on this site a few months ago, ordered Melissa's book, and read it. My husband (the ADHD- spouse) won't read it. Nor would he consent to talk to a therapist or use medication. He seems to think that doing any of these things would admit to being "at fault."

Just needed to get this out. My husband has just told me that he will be on vacation in a week...and he's dying to go away somewhere. I told him it is ridiculous and unfair that he makes such a hasty decision without consulting with me and now expects me to make it happen. Mind you, we have a 4 year old. For 5 years now I've been telling him how he needs to take a vacation from work, so that we can do something. He NEVER wants to take off, not one single day. We can't plan anything. Someone on his job told him of their wonderful PLANNED vacation and now that's where he wants to go.

http://www.adderworld.com/blog1/2011/07/13/the-truth-about-adhd-blurting...

 

 

"A person only has this minute, or this hour, or this day to work with, and what you do with it is your choice.  I could fritter it away with fear, resentment and worry, or I could turn it to some more pleasant or productive purpose.  Either way, no one is watching to chastise me for my choice.  This is a great relief.  I had always felt that my every move was being scrutinized, as if I was the center of the universe and on the verge of being found wanting. it is  delightful to learn that I am free to make mistakes, to do more or less than I had planned and even to squander time.

Married 16 years, 6 kids. None of the issues we are experiencing now are new, but things have never been worse.

The first 4 years of our marriage were very traumatic to me because I left my country to move to his, and when I arrived there he did nothing to provide for us. He wanted to study so he did that, and I had to go to the humiliation to go the welfare office so we had money to eat. Nobody hired me because I did not know the language and then I found myself pregnant. I resented him ever since for that time.

Hi I am new to this forum but have read many posts and can identify with many issues discussed.

I was with my undiagnosed ADHD partner for four and a half years and engaged for two.

I know the subject sounds strange, but bear with me. This morning, for the millionth time, I awoke to a sink full of dirty dishes. Each night before bed, I clean the kitchen, load the dirty dishes in the washer, and set it to run overnight. Most nights, my husband, who is ADHD (diagnosed 2 years ago and taking meds but with no real difference in behavior), raids the kitchen and fills the sink with his dirty dishes (or leaves them lying around the house). I have asked (and begged) him hundreds of times to PLEASE put his dirty dishes in the dishwasher before going to bed.