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My ADD husband has made me start questioning myself and my own needs - his rebuttals are often off topic or specific to one tiny literal detail of a conversation. I am going in circles in my head - am I making this all up, overreacting, crazy?  Do I need to continue to be accused of an affair (which is a ridiculous notion) every time I make plans with friends?  The only time I do anything social (he refuses) or for myself?!?  Do I need to constantly nag him?  Do I need to drop everything to help him find his wallet or phone for the 5th time this week?

My husband has ADHD and I am so relieved to have found this resource! One thing that I have difficulty with is that I always seem to have to change plans to suit him. We can have something on the schedule for months in advance, and when the event arrives, especially if it is something that I have showed interest in, it always seems that something that is more important to him comes up, or he decides that he doesn't want to do anything at all.  I am feeling as though my wants and needs don't matter anymore and I am losing touch with things that I enjoy.

I have come to my wits end... I falling apart, suffocating & dying inside. I have a husband with ADHD. He self diagnosed himself and after researching ADHD and knowing what to say he got a doctor to get on his side and medicate him, even though he didn't quite score enough to get medicated. He blamed ADHD for all his problems. Never motivated, never wants to work and therefore can't earn an income to even feed his family, which has left me working 50 hrs a week trying to make ends meet, run a House and look after 2 small children. Our marriage has been a struggle from day 1.

My wife (we married in 2000) was diagnosed with ADHD about eight years ago. She has tried many primary medications (Ritalin, Adderall, Vyvanse) and a good amount of secondary medications (Effexor, Wellbutrin). I don't think she ever quite found the right combination for her—but she did have a certain degree of success with some of them—but she always complained about anxiousness, sweating, weight gain, and feeling jittery, which made them unacceptable.

I have adhd and frustrated because its hard to keep up with every thing. I work hard and make a very good income. I have a vey loving wife and 4 children. My baby is a senior in high school. I am 44 yrs old yet I have a strong desire to downsize to a condo or something smaller which would free up time and money and stress on myself. I thought maybe we as a couple would have more freedom and less cost thus being to travel and go out and play more. On the other hand my wife likes the big house and pool for the family parties and for the kids to come to as their families grow.

Since reading Dr Orlov's wonderful book, I've been working hard to alter my behavior and not nag and criticize the way that I'd become accustomed to doing about all the weird things my partner does that never seemed to change. It's been a challenge but has been very rewarding to know that there is something I can do besides stay after her for her neglect of me, her forgetting things constantly and many other small things that go on and on. Things initially got better and we were discussing finding a therapist for her. We also argued far less, not much at all. Then things worsened again.

I discovered my adhd 1 week after my partner left me, after she told me why she left me. I am now diagnosed with ADHD at age 25 but she just doesn't understand or want to try, I had to understand her social anxiety but she can't understand this.... I am now medicated and a "better" version of myself, I am in therapy and making huge improvements :-) is it wrong that she doesn't want to try and at least see if I have changed? even after she told me she still loves me 

So I know this is such a childish thing for me to do but I wanted to prove a point, and I think I have....

It's been over a year since I left my ADHD/psychopathic ex. He married less than a year after we split up, and he and new wife are moving soon, out of state. I actually spoke to her a few days ago -- she is very nice and probably as unsuspecting as I was. Her former passed away, and I felt sorry for what she is going to be facing, sooner or later. When I saw him today from a distance, there was no emotion. He had been so abusive. After splitting up, I used to tremble. I had to go to counseling for anxiety. I lost every shred of self-confidence I had.

I Googled "husband takes me for granted".  I found this article that exactly tells what is going on in my marriage.

http://www.torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/NEWSLETTER%20ARTICLES/women_tak...