My husband has just recently been diagnosed with ADHD. The good thing is that it is bringing 96% of our issues to light. The downside is, no matter how much I have changed to attempt to be accommodating, it feels helpless and hopeless.
Thank you for all previous support. We did manage to get to a specialist psychiatrist in UK, and he told HB very clearly that he MUST give up cannabis for at least four months to clear it out of his system, before he would do a meds trial to eliminate doubt about potential ADHD.
Help! My H has never been diagnosed with ADD (he won't seek any kind of help or assessment). I suspect, however,it would be confirmed.
I am wondering if anyone else has experienced this and how they handled it...
I have been reading these forums and blogs on this website for a few months now. I have never had the courage to join in. I have been watching from the inside. But today for whatever reason, I joined. And here I am throwing myself out here. I can't do this anymore. Even as I type, it is surreal. Like this really can't be me in my life getting ready to puke it all out to a bunch of strangers. Here it goes...
My wife was reading up on ADHD because the idea had been brought up regarding our son. She stopped and said, “Wait a minute…this is YOU.” Finding out I had ADHD was a milestone- my entire life fell into place. I was ecstatic! My wife sank into a depression- it confirmed the hopelessness she had felt. The very next day at lunch I went to the mall to get a present for her, maybe a small piece of jewelry or something. I saw a Barnes&Noble and went in- where better to start learning about ADHD than with a new book? I looked at the titles.
My husband has ADHD-inattentive. Finally, finally this diagnosis was made and he began Ritalin LA. He was like a new person. We since lost our insurance and he now is under care through the VA.
The problem is the VA does not generally pay for patented medications. The psych-NP started him on the older version of Ritalin, which has a shorter half life than the Ritalin LA that he was taking. She prescribed two doses a day. He puts off taking it in the morning so that he can take it later in the early afternoon, trying to function effectively during critical hours.
My Theory is this, and my disclaimer, I have not succeeded in doing what my theory is. My Theory: You have to have victory over the addiction before you can have victory over ADD or ADHD. I use the word victory rather than "control" because "control" is an addicts word. On the other hand, I think Dr. Hollowell is on the right track. Victory means that you have not "indulged" your addiction in a long time.
I see many references to ADHD, books and such, but what about ADD?
Hi Everyone!
just wanted to let you know I got one of the jobs I interviewed for last week! Yay!
Will hear about the other one at the end of the month....
cross your fingers for me, please!!!!
Ellamenno
I very often feel that my ADD husband would be better off without being married to me. Ten years of struggling with this disease and it never gets better and I only get worse. I hate the person I've become. I can clearly remember a time when I would never have imagined thinking or saying the things I say to my husband now out of frustration. I am not nice to him. It's so hard for me to put my anger and resentment aside enough to give him praise when he tries. I can't be grateful for what little effort he puts forward. All I ever think is that it's not enough, and maybe it never will
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