I am a 51 year old woman with ADHD, just diagnosed a year and a half ago. I struggle in many ways due to it, the anxiety and defensiveness affecting communication with my new spouse and our kids.
I was referred to a book that helped both me and my spouse to understand the core to our interpersonal communications, and how it gets distorted. The book is "Hold Me Tight, Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love", by Sue Johnson.
Hi everyone, I'm new to this site and was hoping to get some feedback on how to go about my current situation. My partner has ADD, ADHD and anxiety. At the beginning of the relationship everything was perfect. He paid attention to me, the smallest details, he went out of his way to make me smile and to satisfy my needs. As the relationship went on it seemed as if he was slowly losing interest in me.
Just a view month ago I started dating again after finally recovering from a failed marriage ending in divorce about 2 years ago. I met my date back in July and we were attracted to each other immediately both physically as well as spiritually. After a few dates, he mentioned he has to disclose something/tell me a secret as he put it. He said he was diagnosed with ADHD a few years ago after his son was diagnosed (if I recall correctly). I had no idea what that meant for adults ( I have heard of it in kids and what some of the effects are...).
Hi This is my first time here,my girlfriend of 10 years (we are 60)I think she has found a way to lustify her behavior and to stop taking her meds.
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I wasn't sure where to turn for advice, or at least the specific advice I seem to need, and since searching "husband with ADD has illogical arguments" on google seems to bring up weird results, I decided to post here.
This seems unsolvable, but probably isn't. I've been married for about 15 years. We have a 12 year old son. He and I were diagnosed with ADD about 4 years ago. Just before this diagnosis, my wife was in therapy (and we had some marriage therapy) to deal with emotional and physical abuse from my wifes childhood. Things got better for a few months.
Hi everyone. I'm recently registered to this site but have been "lurking" and reading the posts for months. I see so much of my home life in each and every one of you, and thus far, just reading your posts has provided me with much comfort when my frustrations are at an all time high. Recently, unfortunately, it hasn't been enough so I thought I might finally take the step to register, post, and get my story out there. I'm sorry if it's long - I'll try to avoid making a "wall of text"!
My ADD husband told me the other day that he will probably be laid off in the next few weeks and I am trying not to completely lose it. He is 55, diagnosed about 5 years ago (though I was sure for much longer) and takes medication. We've been married 28 years and have 3 kids and his job situation was surprisingly stable for most of that time. He had one job for 10 years and another for 15 years--they weren't very challenging but were solid, with benefits, etc. Five years ago he was laid off--I never really got the real reason, but he was out of work for 3+ years and it nearly killed our
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