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I'm happy to say that my bf and I have had a wonderful week together.  This doesn't sound like a huge feat, but trust me it is.  We usually can't go more than two days without getting in an argument where hurtful things are said.  We have been taking care of each other, snuggling, working together, and saying nice things to each other this whole week.  It makes me feel very close to him and reminds me of why we are still together.  I know we really love each other and both want to make things work.  The test will be tonight.  We are going out with my family and they are surprising me with s

I am analyzing and contemplating what to do,I am feeling like calling it quit's.I am realizing that he is not "just"ADHD,but also a train of disorder's!! I read and read online and books also, I have been doing researches and so far I have come up with this:

OMG, I don't know where to begin, but I will start like this,

Ok, so where do I start? My husband and I have been married for 15 years and have two children. He recently told me that he is "done and can't take it anymore". I asked him if he made up his mind and he said "yes". We went to see a counselor a few days later (I thought for us, but he later said it was to have someone give us direction on how to help our kids through this). The counselor spoke with us together for about an hour or so, then told me that she needed to get more history from him. I eventually "got the point" and left.

I am not sure about this one,I have not read about this so I am lost, but could someone please tell me if their ADHD spouse ever celebrates a Birthday,Anniversary,Christmas,New years etc,My husband has done that to me where he never celebrates an occasion,and now his ex child's mother just email me saying that he never sends the child Christmas cards,birthday cards "nothing"could anyone please tell me if they have experienced this and what is the cause???

Thank you!

lovehurts.

Who knows what goes on when I am not around by DH apartment,I let my self got caught up for one (whole) year running down the relationship b/c I did not know it was ADHD at the time.I wasted a lot of time,energy,mental and physical health,in not knowing the (truth) or the (underlying problem),I thought he was not (loved)by his parents the way he should be, or maybe (this too shall pass)how "typical"I really was blind to the disorder"thank god for the internet",Today I am in a much more better place after finding out it was not me

Ok, so of course , my husband has ADHD and he is on medication and seeing a psychologist. But I'm noticing some behavior that I just can't chalk up to ” ADHD”...... Ex: The other day I asked for him to ” take a shower” with me and winked at him, he preceded to get in the shower with Me, wash as fast as he could and got out......Really?

This has happened many times.  We have a heavy conversation usually about something he did or didn't do.  I am emotional, loud, insistent, strong.  I have said I can't go on like this anymore and give some suggestions about giving ourselves both some breathing room and both be able to get our needs met in a way other than us beating ourselves up trying so hard.  He ususally says things are OK to him but "whatever".

Well, Today he had that "anger outburst and raging tantrums",,,," he is either overly sweet, OR overly bad".NO middle!! Today he went to collect his payments for doing a job he had done for a doctor,a regular doctor,NOT,an ADHD doctor,he found the privilege in asking the non-ADHD doctor for advice,well,we all know where this is going,the stupid doctor filled his head with stupidness, telling him that the ADHD pills have "BAD" side effects, and that he should consider,WHAT!!!!!!!!! no! no! no!!

I am getting to the "acceptance and understanding" phase of having this information of DH's probable ADD. I only found this site and learned about ADD one month ago. I knew about "hyperactivity" and heard the ADHD label but never associated it with anyone I was knew.   I have SOOOOOOOO much built up frustration, resentment and mistrust from this 35 years of marriage.  Every day I have more information and I test it and it turns out what people are saying is happening the same way with us.