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So... I'm 40 and I've been married to my ADD husband for 15 years and I have lost count of all the jobs he has had, usually for somewhere between 6 months and 3 years.  I'm finally coming to the realization that I'm looking at a lifetime of him changing jobs (with seasons of unemployment which are super tough), no retirement, no college savings for our kids, no financial management (unless I do it alone and I'm not great at it and I do dislike it) and never seeing him happy vocationally.  Anyone out there have some good coping skills for this life I'm facing?

1.  If I need some "man job" done, I lay all the equipment out and take my time to get to the job (an hour or even a day sometimes).  If he hasn't already asked if he can do it, I wait until he is around and then begin the job.  He CANNOT let me do a job without either telling me how or saying, "Shall I do that?"  If he begins to tell me how to do the job, I say, "Would you like to do it so it is done right?"

I started dating with my ADHD partner 1.5 years ago and got engaged last year. (He gets treatment and is on medication)

I am originally from japan and met him while i was working in australia (2006-2011). we`ve been friend for 4 years before started dating.

I knew from the start that he has ADHD. sure had to deal with a little bit of his mood swings,depression,easy to forget some arrangement etc.. but everything was so perfect. this guy is the most good thing ever happened in my life.

Wow, this is a new thing for me and I am really taking a risk.  I am married to a man who has ADHD.  He chooses not to seek medical management.  

We have a young daughter and have been married 5 years.  We met and married a year and a half after knowing each other.  Knowing what I know now, I married him during the hyper-focus stage.  I thought, stupidly, that I was really just that great!  That he loved me, not loved being in love and the "thrill of the chase." 

Hello, before you get confused, we are lesbians.

Ok- My wife was diagnosed as an adult, before we met. We have been married for 7 months and have a 6 year old daughter. I'm going to list some things going on, and if anyone can help me identify if the examples are ADHD, or just her personal issues, I would greatly appreciate it. Every day I feel more increasingly like I am grasping onto tiny threads and losing more and more of her, and in turn losing part of me with it.

Hubby has been having is ADHD in, ADHD out moments frequently at times,"snap shot thinking",he has been in and out of situations presently and in the past also,and in the past/present with what "I"call "snap shot thinking"or"snap shot memory" ,in addition to having ADHD,his anger and frustrations buildup from having an abusive childhood has been an overpowering situation in addition to having undiagnosed/unrecognized ADHD for DH over the years, and in the event of failing at "ANYTHING"causes him to go into "snap shot memory",i.e:he was doing a job at one time and b/c he was so good at what

I have been married over a year and recently learned that my husband was diagnosed with ADHD in college. Now he denies that he has it, and claims that he cheated on the test to get diagnosed that way on purpose. According to him, he failed in college and got kicked out due to his incompetence with writing (he tends to rewrite over and over due to his obsession to write perfect sentences, thus takes much longer time to finish things) and one of the professors suggested to him to use ADHD as an excuse to get back to school.

I'm dating a guy with ADHD and since we don't live together and aren't married, a lot of common problems don't affect us. But I do feel taken for granted. I feel like I had his interest in the beginning, and then I lost it, and now I only get it back when he hasn't seen me in a couple weeks and misses me. So when I don't have his interest, I'm low on his list. He agonizes over canceling plans with people who honestly probably don't care, but when he cancels romantic plans with me at the last minute he doesn't even feel the need to say he's sorry.

How do you non-ADD spouses communicate with your ADD spouses about money?

For me and my ADD hubby, it's been one fight after another. When we were dating, he was employed full time, and seemed to be OK with managing his money. I think the fact that he had a surplus was the key. There was enough to eat out most every night and still pay the bills, albeit late since he never had the patience to sit on the phone to make the payment (or the memory to put the bills in the mail). That was before he was diagnosed.

I am building communication skills with DH,Tonight our discussion was based on his past hurt from childhood thru adulthood,and so far it's all been a huge resentful,hurtful past on his behalf,from cheating mother versus step father slash step brother/step sister,his life have been really tough,bad,hurtful and painful, through the books I have been reading and the forums and blogs here my education level on ADHD as been going good, and well understood,but,I am still learning.