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This is the letter that I just wrote to our ADHD Coach. She is also our marriage counselor. He's ADHD and I'm the Non. This weekend I have just met my match. I'm done thinking that it's possible for him to give me even remotely what I need. I've done everything in my power to keep this marriage a float. I won't do it anymore. It's too hard, it's taking too much of a toll. It's simply not healthy for me but ....OMG...how can I do this to my 6 year old. How can I possibly do this to her. I keep our home so low conflict that she simply won't see this coming.

Now knowing that my husband's "neglect" is a by product of adhd, I get its not on purpose but it doesn't matter. When his therapist first mentioned he suspected my hubby had it I thought "ok then we will fix that and it'll get better." I didn't understand what all adhd had impacted so I read about it and heard my own story being told over and over again. I thought "this really isn't his fault or intentional!" I just keep waiting for this anger and resentment to go away and it doesn't. Does anyone have any advice on how to overcome my anger towards him?

My DH would not accept the fact that we need to go our separate ways and try and figure out our direction in life.My husband has a "bitter sweetness"in him.The sweetness in him is very sweet and the bitterness in him is very BITTER.

Thank you so much for this site!

Another member posted about her ADHDer having a 'ZERO tolerance' for these..and it really struck me. We just had a 'fight' this weekend over the pain issue. He had a tooth pulled Friday and got a prescription for a narcotic pain reliever. (HUGE problem for me...he has a history of abusing pain meds). He took 3 of them within 10 hours (were prescribed every 6 hours) and I flushed them down the toilet. He was insistent that the ONLY reason he took them was because he tooth was hurting.

Hello everyone!

I've been meaning to catch up, but have been so busy and haven't been allowing myself to spend too much time doing anything that isn't related to earning any money, cooking, cleaning or dealing with kids.

Hello Everyone,

Just wanted to let you know:  My husband DID get me the 3 CDs I was bugging him about!

You're a genius!

Yippeee!

I don't know what happened for this to escalate this way.  I am at home today on a day off and was cleaning.  My husband came home at lunch to grab a bite to eat and get back to work.  He chose this time to complain at me.  He opened the fridge door and seen two small containers of raspberries we had bought last sunday.  He started to accuse me of not eating them in time before they've gone bad and why the hell would I buy three containers of raspberries and only eat one and waste the other two.  

Today my kids had field day at their school.  At the crack of dawn, hours before they were to wake up I went out and got little accessories to go with their class t-shirts and hats to match.  Oh yeah and bought drinks for both of their classes.  When they woke up they were so happy with everything and obviously excited about the day.