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I haven't read or posted here in a long time, but this thought came to me today.  Your children's view of marriage is based on what they see from their mother and father.  And I'm scared to death that my kids are not seeing a very healthy relationship.  They are still young-5, 3, and 1yo.  I'm not wanting a divorce, there's just no way I can do that to my kids.  But my ADD husband and I just can't be showing them how a good, healthy marriage should be.  He is constantly letting me down, ruining my plans, not being on my team when we discipline the kids.  And the fact that I feel completely

Even though I have NEVER mentioned it to him, my DH is about 60 pounds overweight.  The extra weight really doesn't look bad on him, considering how tall he is so even when he mentioned it I just told him he looked fine (he was underweight and looked like a walking skeleton when I met him).  We have had WAY bigger issues than his weight to deal with.  Well...at his doctor appt.

I'm recently married to my wonderful husband Vincent and I love him more than anything and although we've been together for over a year now I'm just now beginning to realize how much his ADHD affects our relationship. Even though we are both aware that he has ADHD and I try so hard to understand what he's thinking It's still hard for me to try and communicate my feels to him without making it seem like I'm attacking him.

Not sure what category this belongs in, but this forum has a "positive" title, so I'll go with it.  I'm declaring today "Be Authentic Day".  This is a one-time free pass to be your best authentic self.  Not the perfect self your mother, your teachers, your spouse or your friends "expect" you should be.  But the real, fabulous, unique best self you know you are somewhere inside.  Feel like a parent most of the time and hate it?  Today you are free instead to be your authentic self, and not a parent.  Hope you enjoy it!  Feel like you're treated like a child who can't be trusted to take of yo

WOW!  My wife and I are 40 pages into The ADHD Effect and I am astounded.  Unfortunately I am also nearly out-of-time to save our marriage (and to spare our 10 year old boy and 12 year old girl the tragedy of divorce and its effects on children).  We also have (2) older 20-something boys from her previous marriage that her and I raised together since marrying in 1998.  

Ok, I wasn't sure exactly where to put this so here it is and I need to vent...like NOW!!

Sometimes in a marriage, you have to talk to your partner about "serious" topics.  Decisions must be made, options considered, or progress evaluated on things like finances, family schedules, or putting the relationship on the "front burner" now and then.  My guy has told me, though, that his biggest fear in starting these "serious" conversations is that they "will never end." He said while we talk he keeps wondering "Is this almost over?"  Kinda like I feel in the dentist chair?   This astonished me, because we are not a couple who spends a whole evening, or even an hour either talk

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If you ask me, I'd tell you that going out of town on vacation is our 2nd biggest obstacle.  And we're about to go on an almost 1000 mile road trip!  To say I'm nervous or have anxiety about this trip would most definitely be an understatement.  So far, no matter how I've tried to make leaving town easier (for both of us), I still end up with the same amounts of frustration and resentment.  When DH is around his family (especially his dad and brother) we cease to exist for the most part.  He is no help with the kids, and it's near impossible to get his attention.  This road trip he's decide

A few months ago, my wife decided that I have ADHD. After some reading on the subject, I've come to agree. It seems to explain a lot of the last 20 years we've been together. I'm still having a hard time figuring out what's "me-me" and what's "ADHD-me," and hoping I can get things under control better than I have in the past.