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I joined this forum because my girlfriend has ADHD, and I’m pretty confused about aspects of our experience together.  As we grew close, I have encountered a level of emotional intensity I have never experienced before. Whenever she “acts out”, she attributes it to her ADHD, and expects me to understand all her behavior for it. The problem I have…her behavior has become extremely intense, directed at me negatively, and puts me in a state of fear, worrying how I will offend her next.

I'm a newbie but I have learned a wealth of information here and I thank you all for sharing.  My Husband and I who have been together for sixteen years and married for seven, we separated two years ago due to my fine investigative skills and women's intuition. Needless to say he went on a "date" which he still calls a hangout because he said our relationship was over in his eyes.  So I threw him out and six weeks later I found out he was on Match.com and everywhere else actively dating while we were separated.  We continued to be intimate with each other because we felt safe with each othe

So my DH decided to not go to class today because he was too tired, but he was online about 20 minutes after I left the house....yeah he was reallllll tired.  More like he wanted to be on Facebook or talking to his gf more than he wants to pass school.  Not to mention he started an on campus group for the radio and he hasn't shown up for the last two meetings they had (yeah hes the president of the group) because they wont do things his way and hes not seeing this work out the way he wanted.  Or he is having one of the whores from one of the sex dating sites hes on coming over.

I am reeling this morning, I just do not know how to cope with this anymore.

The last few days I have been ill with Tonsillitis, really very ill. I have been laid up since Monday. My husband really shone in this time, he cleaned the kitchen, he put me to bed, he rubbed my legs when I had a fever. However, as I got better, his behavior seemed to deteriorate, almost as if, when I was totally dependent on him, it brought out something nurturing. Of course the worm had to turn.

I am angry.  My ADHD spouse  is sad.

We are both stubborn.

"Look what you did to each other." 

I am still not fully able to grasp this observation.  Am I free from any blame?  No, of course not.  But I am so-o-o struggling with this. . . . .  "Look what you did to each other."  I had really hoped for something else.  I really hoped for - well maybe empathy?  A bitter pill to swallow.  It will not go down. 

We're married more than 15 years. I was diagnosed ADHD 2 years ago, and accepted the diagnosis and meds. After a rough transition, My life has changed for the better in so many ways. My job went from shaky to great, I gave up alcohol, watch my sugar intake, exercise regularly, and always have done my fair share of house chores. It's not enough for my wife. She wants me to suddenly not be ADHD. She wants me to never again make a dumb comment. I'm supposed to become perfect.

I am new to the forum. Like so many others on here, I am perilously close to divorce. I REALLY don't want that to happen, but I just don't know what to do. My (fairly story-independent) questions are at the end, so you can skip the background story or read it- whatever you prefer :)

We are going on 3 years next week.  He is a good guy that refuses to admit he has this illness.  He drives me nuts!  I actually talked him into going to a couples therapy session and he told the therapist "there is nothing wrong with me".  I walked out crying so hard I could barely walk.  As much as I love him I want to strangle him 90% of the time.  He is super hyperactive from dawn until bedtime.  He is a trucker so he is only home on weekends and when he is home I am lucky to get to sleep by 2 or 3 in the morning as he won't stop talking.  He will stay on his computer for hours (I have t

Just an update for those of you that know whats going on in my little world.  My DH is leaving after Christmas, he needs to finish out the semester and I need to have a vehicle until I can figure out how to get to work (30 minutes away) without one.  He has decided that he has never loved me and wants his ex (from 10 years ago) back because she has kids and is pregnant with another that he is going to adopt.  I cannot have more children due to a medical issue and for him (after 6 years!!!) this is a deal breaker.

Hi all, I'm new to this site, but I've been reading it with ever-opening eyes for the past few days. I just realized that I am a woman with ADD and my husband and I are on our way to a classic control/parent/child situation. I am so relieved to have found this sight. All these years I thought I was lazy and undisciplined and now I find answers, people describing themselves, conversations, and situations that could be me.