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When we got married, my husband and I were 22 years old.  I never minded a little fun with video games every once in a while for myself.  Growing up with 3 computer addicted siblings, I had developed a "moderation in everything" attitude.  My husband knew before we got married how much I wasn't into guys that plugged themselves into machines for hours of recreational time.  In fact, I was totally turned off by it.  He was conveniently not one of "those guys" while we were dating.  We're 11 years down the road, 4 kids later.

I am the non-ADHD spouse. Although my husband is decidedly not "H". He was diagnosed shortly after our eldest child was diagnosed not quite 10 years ago. They are both ADD, inattentive type. Able to hyperfocus, but unable to focus. They get along very well and speak in their own shorthand that does not require attention to complete sentences.

In a grand development, his new psychiatrist decreased his dosage of medication and he thinks she's an idiot and thus, he is SO not going to see her until another med check is absolutely positively required.

I have just found this site and think  its awesome, have read a couple of posts and its like reading a page out of my journal.

I have been with my partner, Sam, for seven years.  He has recently been diagnosed with Adult ADD/ADHD.  Its amazing to finally have explanations for all those things that I put down to him being lazy, unmotivated, etc... BUT I feel like Sam uses this as a crutch.

I'm the more ADHD of the two, and have begun reading Orlov's book.  I'm about half way through and have noticed and emphasis on finding "someone who knows how to treat ADHD".  This emphasis seems critical, and I can imagine why.  The wife and I are seeing a marriage counselor now, and while she is a licensed family therapist and knows some of the difficulties concerning ADHD, I'm not sure she is the specialist that will help me through the specifics of my symptoms.

I've been reading a lot on this site.  It has been extremely helpful and certainly makes me realize I am not alone.  My question is this.  I see most all people seem to have an issue with their ADHD spouses being procrastinators, late, and financially lacking (paying bills late or can't keep a job) But my DH is the exact opposite of this.  He is early to everything- to a fault, the minute a bill comes in he pays it, he has had the same job for 14 years, and 12 on the job before that.  These are very good things, but can be very frustrating.

I have reconsidered what I posted earlier and actually wanted to delete the post entirely, but couldn't figure out how to do so.  Thanks for making this forum available.

I've been with my ADHD partner for 6 months. The beginning was different; I remember feeling as if there were hints of hyperfocus, but mainly because we had looser schedules and practically lived in each other's backyards. It was easy to be together and spend time. Fast forward a few months, and he's moved 30 minutes away, and we both have busier work schedules. I don't usually see him during the work week, and if I do, it's only for an hour or two late in the evening. We generally spend weekends together because of the lack of time during the week.

My husband has fairly severe ADHD.  He is also high intelligence, so he was able to compensate for a long time.  Once job and family etc. etc.

I need to really vent (scream?!) here, so I hope what I'm saying makes sense.  I guess I really need to know if I'm losing my mind here, or if I have a real problem on my hands.  My husband and I are 55 years old, we've been married 20 years, second marriage for both of us, and up to the 15 year point, it was a wonderful marriage.  He was diagnosed with ADHD about three years ago.  I've lived through his having an affair, his cancer diagnosis, not being able to count on him for anything, his focus on everything else but me, his need to control, and his erratic attention span.  And the only