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Although we have been at the point of divorce many times before, I believe I will go through with it this time. I am completely burned out and am tired of his ADHD and depression. I need to get on with my life! He is very angry and refuses to leave our home. I am willing to compensate him fairly for this, however, he is very angry (as usual)! I live in NJ. Anyone have any advice? Do I wait for his anger to subside? Do I see a lawyer and be aggressive? I was hoping to do this civilly thru a mediator. I want our divorce to be more dignified than our marriage....

Every once in a while when I'm feeling really down I look at this site thinking I will find some hope.  Instead I end up feeling even more discouraged.  Even in the 'hopeful' forum - it's all about being hopeful that the ADHD spouse will change and 'get better' and live up to the non-adhd spouse's expectations.  I read how everyone is at their wits end with their spouse and can't take it anymore.  Or how the adhd spouse is making progress but it's such a small step.

Hello everyone, I have been living apart from my long term partner for a year. Although he says he has explored the idea that ADD is behind his increasingly difficult behaviour, I am not sure if he has actually gone all the way down the path to diagnosis and treatment - he appears to keep this secret from me. We parted because I was so stressed I was unable to control my panic attacks and anxiety, as every time I came home from work it was to find something wrong, nothing done, and everyone angry and upset.

Hi Melissa and everyone,

Hi everyone!

What role does Christian Faith have in your marriage to an ADHD partner? (For those who are Christians)

How are you Dr. Hallowell  I'm a Taiwan peopole (sorry my english is pool)

at time in bookstore I seen your book "Delivered from Distraction" , I found I like a "ADD"  and very interested it ,but in taiwan I can't

search some good for me to very understend about "ADD"  so I sreach about you by web ,I'm so sorry about my english is very bad  but

I really want to know what is ADD and learn how to be better.            very thankyou look my write letter   by Gary Jun in taipei

Hi…non- ADHD spouse here. I’ve posted a few times on this site and have all I can do to not sign in and read her for hours on end. My husband and I have a very pivitol appointment coming up with our ADHD coach. I say “our” because we use her as a marriage counselor. This meeting is sort of a come to Jesus meeting. I need to communicate some boundries, and other areas of opportunity that need to be dealt with. One of the big things that I’m struggling with his the outside of our home and yard.

Good morning all,

I am new to this site.  I would like a bit of advice.

I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and we live together.  He is a contractor and has not been working outside of a few odd jobs here and there.  He has contributed very little to nothing to the household bills.  I pay the mortgage, food, utilities and even pay for vacations etc.  I even had to buy his brother's birthday present yesterday.