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My husband (ADHD) and I ( nonADHD) are starting a new marriage counselor in a couple months.   This marriage therapist is assigned through the Veteran's Hospital where the doctors sometimes work in cycles between clinics... So our other counselor cycled out and shifted us to his boss's care.

We don't know if the old therapist or new one is "specialized" ( if that is the proper word) in ADHD or not.

Thank you to everyone who has posted on this forum and shared their heartbreaking and very relatable stories. After pushing and prodding my boyfriend along these 5 years to marry me I've decided I'm no longer interested in marrying him. All this time I've thought it was ME and have worked very very hard improving me (mind, body and spirit). I'm not perfect. I have baggage, but don't we all?

WOW!!!  I feel like I want to cry in pure joy I have found this sight!  I had no idea there were others who experience what I have being married to someone with ADD.    We have been married almost 2 yrs but dated for 3yrs.  We had soooo much fun together dating and did so much laughing.  We did not live together before we were married due to religious reasons.   Since we have been married, there have been several times where I honestly thought I was done.  DONE!  Anytime I call for his attention when he is doing something, he sighs in frustration and rolls his eyes.  He will not help around

We're gearing up for the first home budget meeting of the year. We're trying to get back into the habit of a weekly family meeting, but this first meeting will be going over last year's budget and planning at a high level for the new year. In the past, we stopped doing weekly or monthly budget meetings because our communication and budget styles are different enough that they were really ​stressful for us. So now we're starting up again, and I'm trying to figure out good communication strategies to make this more successful.

I have been dating a 45-year old man with undiagnosed ADHD for a year. Both me and him are convinced that he has the condition. One of the many things that puzzles me about his behaviour is this: He mostly acts and speaks in a way that is relevant for his age - that is in a responsible, mature and experienced way. But suddenly he reacts, jokes and makes comments that is really embarrasing, like some teenager. To be frank, he sounds stupid and I really get turned of, I am in my forties and don't want to date a kid.

Hi Everyone...

I apologize in advance if my post becomes a little lengthy.  I just want to give a full depiction of my situation and see if anyone has been in a similar situation and can offer any insight or advice, as I most certainly could use it right now.  The past few days (since Sunday) have been the worst in my entire life......

I am the non-adhd spouse of an ADHD man who was diagnosed long after I had married him.  I found out a few months ago that my husband of 12 years ago had his profile on a dating website.  After the initial shock wore off, and many panic attacks of my own over this, things calmed down slightly.  I was still determined to not let it go.  After some snooping around on his emails, I came across messages from a couple of woman.  To make a long story short, I confronted my husband with this info and he admitted to having his first affair 4 years ago!

I have finally decided I can't live with my husband any more. He doesn't feel he should have to move, unlike Lululove's husband who left when she told him to. So I, handicapped, have to divide all our stuff, pack and move. I am going to move about 90 miles away, where my job is (it's on online job; I never go there) and my family.

Our relationship has improved greatly in the past few weeks.  I've learned (through reflection and visiting with my own therapist) to back off a little.  I was rather critical and "nagged" more then necessary.   A long story short things are going great.  We are both more relaxed, I feel happy again, with him and myself,  he's willing to hear me out now and is not as sensitive or tries to be more conscious of his responses and questions as do I.  

Something strange has happened in my marriage and I need some advice / possible explanation/help understanding:  First some background -  My husband has ADHD, he was diagnosed with it when he was a child.  He does not take medication and flat out refuses to go to therapy.  We have been married 7 years, most of which have been very difficult.  When we were dating I was his focus, we would spend time together, he adored me, he would spoil me with extravagant gifts.  Once we were married and moved in together things began to unravel.  He didn’t help with the household chores, spent a tremendou