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My husband was diagnosed with ADHD and Bi-polar, which includes depression and anxiety.... We have been married for almost 6 years, and after about our first MAGICAL 3 mos its been a real struggle. We have had 6 different counselors, both individual and marriage, it seems to get better for awhile but ALWAYS goes back to the same crap. We have been separated probably 4 times, and I almost divorced him in Jan

We've made some huge progress lately and though he's not addressing it directly with me I suspect he is checking ADHD out on his own.  I am noticing big efforts on his part.

I need some example of how to word things I need him to do without making him feel tense or reactive.  For example he volunteered to take care of something that was bothering me but has yet to get to it a week later.

I would like to discuss the issues in more depth without it always seeming like we're going to have yet another conversation about our relationship.

I met my husband in high school. We immediately became best friends and hung out with a small group of people. We never dated, just had a lot of fun together. 4 years later we reconnected and he told his mother after seeing me while visiting home from the Navy that I  was "the girl he was going to marry". We decided that we would give dating a shot, why not right? So we had an amazing week which I don't blame on ADD because it was that "new" love which is always so amazing. He left Indiana for Florida where he was going to be stationed. That was January.

I would like to better understand what aspects of my relationship with my ADD husband are parts of his personality and what aspects are connected to his ADD.  My husband does not "give" of himself, gifts or reciprocate.  I tell him it's important to me. I share that not giving me gifts and telling me what gifts he wants and expects from me is hurtful. He thinks that buying something he wants and saying it's for me (when whatever it is is the last thing I'd want) is a gift.  He does not make love to me anymore (a handful of times in the 3 years we've been married).

I am a 42 year old male diagnosed with ADD about 14 years ago.  While I struggled during high school I graduated with a Masters degree in 1999.  I currently work as a City Planner.  I have been married to my 38 year old wife for 15 years.  We have 2 boys ages 5 and 7.  Our oldest son has also been diagnosed with ADD and I attend and participate in counseling with him when the therapist requests my involvement. 

So I looked for quite awhile and didn't find this topic.  I thought if I am dealing with this so is someone else.  I have adhd and my wife does not.  Now don't get me wrong, I have plenty of anger and other issues to resolve myself.  However, I don't understand why my spouse gets mad and frustrated with me all the time but its "okay" because my actions "made" her frustrated or angry.  If I want an apology I have to ask or demand it because she thinks she doesn't have to.  She acts like I can't get angry but when she does I can't say anything because I "made" her angry.  I just want things

Hi, I have been trying to find a therapist who is trained to treat Adult ADHD (individual and couple) in Greater Toronto (Canada) for long time. Does anyone have any info? Can anybody help me? It will certainly be appreciated very much!

I made some off-hand comment today about my DH's therapy, and of course he used it as a jumping off place to direct all his anger at me. I'm working from home today (he is doing some fix-it projects), and he's been storming around here. This is pretty much par for the course for the last 6-8 months. Something sets him off, he storms around, he insists on engaging in some kind of "fight" that is really just him berating and badgering me about all I am doing wrong, and then eventually it calms down. I am so over it.

oof....  I left home today and halfway to work I realized I had not taken my Adderall.  I felt like my brain was a wet sponge.  I made stupid mistakes, thought it was Thursday (instead of tuesday) for an entire hour. Almost got hit by a car crossing a street... And just plain confused/exhausted the whole time.  20 minutes seemed like an hour and by the time I got home and tried to have a conversation with my husband, I couldn't form a sentence.

*sigh*