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This is my first post. I’ve read and lurked for a good long while.  Finding solace in shared experiences.

Can we talk about running away? My grown adult husband has run away several times now in the last few years. RUN AWAY! As in twice I had to file missing persons reports, other times I didn’t. One of those times after he was found as he was crawling back home after a 23 hour over the top meltdown, we then got to sit in the hospital for 18 hours with no help after the police found him and brought him to the ER. (Covid has the ER packed and psych couldn't get to him)

I've recently entered into a new relationship with a fantastic person who has ADHD and autism. When we are together, and can talk face-to-face, then the relationship is one of the best I've ever had. She is kind, caring, a fantastic Mum, and everything I want in a partner. She is also incredibly strong, and very independent.

"Avoidance is an unhealthy practice and when we have the courage to face something terrible that courage is rewarded with the gift of a deeper connection to our inner wisdom."

I'm pretty sure that my husband is showing ADHD symptoms, but he doesn't think so.

I've tried giving him examples and all he says is that " he's special " then tries to laugh it off. And will say he's not ADHD.

How do i get him to realize what he does is affecting our relationship, I don't want us to split up, we've only been married 18 months, but as it stands at the moment, because life has become difficult and I'm also going through some hormone changes being Peri-menopausal, he blames a lot of the way we feel on me, and i don't know how much i can cope with this.

My partner walked out on our 25 year marriage 4 weeks ago. He was diagnosed with ADHD in May after our adult sos diagnosis, and is still waiting to start the medication process. We have been having problems in our marriage for a while now and were trying to reconnect. More unsuccessfully than i realized.  I now feel having found Melissa's book that I was so fixated on healing the disconnection that I was probably unintentionally pressuring him into doing things with me rather than give him the space he may have needed to heal.

Our lives have recently been pretty drastically changed after my ADHD partner started a new medication, so I wanted to share this in hopes that it might help someone else.

My partner and i started couples therapy this year. After countless sessions and ALOT of money spent I feel like I have not gained anything from the therapist..When I found Melissa's book I cried and felt this rush of emotions realising this whole time I wasn't making things up and that my anger and frustrations are a direct cause of my partners ADHD. 

I even forgot I had the book The ADHD Effect on Marriage until last night, when it caught my eye.  I began looking at it this morning.  Oh boy....   I will provide a VERY abbreviated story about my husband and me.   

Sometimes my spouce lashes out with the nastiest things how do you not take it personal how do you not sigh and get frustrated? Im trying but it hurts so bad

Sooooo....finally gathered the guts to write about this. I'm fairly new here and discovered the site after our marriage counselor advised me (and hopefully later on my wife) to read The ADHD Effect on Marriage about 2 weeks ago. I've been reading like crazy and gotta say it's quite a slap in the face. No wait, more like a brick. But in a good way I guess. I'm a Dutch 43 year old married father of two boys (5 and 2). I was diagnosed about 10 years ago and got treatment for a short while right after that and started using medication.