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Well, after 21 years of marriage, not happily, I'm finally giving up! We're getting a divorce and going our separate ways. Wife has ADD and depression and simply will not get help. When she was going to counseling, about 6 years ago, things were fine, but sometimes a little rough. Her counselor retired, gave her a list of referrals, but she never would call them, or would lie to me about calling them. Her counselor told me one time that she recommended a psychiatrist. However wife would not go. Long story shorter..... we are filing for uncontested divorce.

I just finished Melissa’s book and it hit home so much! I am a non-ADHD spouse married to my husband who was diagnosed last month. We have been together almost 16 years (15 of them extremely happy…one of them completely heartbreaking, painful, and devastating).

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I am new to the site and I am seeking advice. Been married to my husband for 32 years. He has exhibited some signs of ADHD over the years but it has been getting worse over the last few years. He has been told by the 2 marriage therapists we have seen that he very likely has adhd. He will not go back to see these therapists (that I found) and when I ask him to find a therapist, he won't. He refuses to accept the “stigma” and the “label” of ADHD (those are the words he uses) and therefore refuses to seek evaluation.  I bought 2 copies of the ADHD effect on Marriage and gave him one.

So me and my girlfriend broke up with me last mouth on May 2nd. She said it wasn't my fought but she didn't want to me go in to depression and hurt me. I have had adhd since i was diagnosed at the age of 7. Ive never had so bad depression and anxiety in the period 2 weeks.The stuff i was going thought i have never had happen in my life. My entire body turned numb for the whole day, i wasn't eating anything barely getting any sleep.

Hi, I'm married to a man with all of the above - and we're in a mess! We've been together for 21 years and have 3 children (one with a disability) Husband was diagnosed officially with ADHD in 2021 and spent a tough 6 months trialling meds until he found one which worked. We both thought his life would get better, but things seem to have got worse? He takes antidepressants, struggles with mental health at times but does everything right to look after himself - he runs (and runs), raises money for charity, helps other people with their mental health issues.

Hi everyone, Non-ADHD partner here.

My ADHD partner and I have been together for almost six years. We love each other deeply. This past July I gave birth to our daughter, who has brought a joy into our lives neither of us can describe.

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well... here I am.  And hello.   I need help, I need support... I am SO tired.   I've been married to an amazing man for 27 years.  ADHD has entered our marriage for the past 3.  Although it has been present always, we've just KNOWN about it for the past 3.  And in fairness my partner's symptoms while present and I can recall times it surfaced, it has only escalated in the past several years.   We have REALLY been on the struggle bus lately and we had a HUGE fight today and we are at the point where we need to start doing some serious work.

Hello to all of you, it's truly helping to be talking to people who actually understand the struggle.

It is basically impossible to tell about my relationship with undiagnosed ex partner without mentioning the ADHD and at the same time it feels weird to be bringing it up so often in conversations.

I have been with my ADHD husband for almost 8 years and married 8 months. I love him but not as much as years ago. I have always been an organised calm happy go lucky person although I am quite a controlling person but not any more. I am taking anti depressants and having counselling I feel angry frustrated sad and tired.