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As I read more on this site, it is as if a lightbulb has gone off. I'm finding more hope. During Thanksgiving dinner my ADHD husband had us all hysterically laughing. His sense of humor  and timing is amazing and hilarious. I've learned over the years it is one of his coping mechanisms.

I see that it's been 15 weeks and five days since I first posted here. That must have been right after I heard Melissa talking about her book and thinking - that sounds a lot like us. Since then I've read the ADHD and marriage book, a lot of delivered from distraction and a lot of posts here. I've talked to my husband about some of what I've read and we've talked about how some things about ADHD sound kind of like him. Our marriage isn't bad but there are things I thought could be better and they sound a lot like ADHD & marriage.

New here, found this site after yet another crisis that sent me looking for some hope and answers. After reading many of the posts, I just sat numb, it was like reading about my marriage over and over. what struck me the most was the question, "Why do you stay?" I could give so many answers to that because I hear that question all the time. He read  books on ADD and tried things for a while, but nothing stuck.

I am new to the whole research thing and have had a long haul to get here.  My husband has ADHD and is very aware of his diagnoses.  He has sought out medication but no real support.  We have been in marriage counseling several times but never addressed our specific issues instead focusing on issues with his mother, of whom we are both sure is undiagnosed, We both work full time and until recently were both home at night with the kids.  My son is 8 and we have run the gauntlet with him.  He has been asked to leave several daycares, has been in a couple of private schools one of which allo

One constant source of stress for me, that I am at a loss as to how to resolve is my husband's constant complaints about his job. I'm torn between feeling like he's surely to quit any given day and just thinking he's just 'venting' and it's not as big of a deal to him as he makes it seem to me. He constantly says things like "I am at my wits end" "I hate this place!" "I can't do this anymore" "I am about to lose my mind" and has even asked me "If I find another job, do you care if I quit this one?"

First of all, reading through this forum and realizing that my experience has been so similar to many of the members here has been somewhat therapeutic. I've noticed that there are three very common feelings: loneliness, anger and resentment and that I'm not alone or crazy for feeling these three things so strongly.

In many ways, my story is so typical.

My ADD partner noticed me the last couple of days!

Normally he's pretty inattentive but because I've been home sick from work he's been showing his caring side. He made me soup and tea and brought it up to me in bed last night. In the morning he felt my forehead on waking to see if I was feverish... He asked me if I was hungry and then proceeded to make me breakfast in bed.

When he went out to the store he asked me if I wanted anything.. And he told me he'd mail a couple of letters for me that must go out today.

I am also new here, I have been reading for a couple of months now but just never wrote anything yet. From all the stories I have read, I can say that any of the husbands described here by other wives could be mine. The stories are all so similar, the anger, frustration, etc. But there is always a new twist, so maybe I can use some input here.

I am new...  My husband was diagnosed about 9 years ago with adhd.  i keep holding on to hope for a marriage with a partner who is consistently the same each day  but i fear it will never come to pass.  we can have one good day, then 8 bad days, then 2 good days then 2 bad...  IT IS NEVER SMOOTH or consistent.  Our arguments about this invade our lives constantly and take us away from what is important:  working, raising a family and loving one another. 

My wife took a vacation away from me with the kids to see her family.  I secretly stowed the book in her luggage with a nice love'ish letter.  She "skimmed" the book and found "a lot" that she related to and understood.   But it's all for naught.  She's absolutely stuck in anger mode and told me last night that she wants a separation (read: with all that she's planned for, divorce; but she has to wait a year to get that).  I tried talking to her and pleading with her, but literally, every statement I made was instantly morphed into a putdown or threat in her eyes.