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I have read so many posts here over the past couple of days and so many of them could have been written by me that's it's scary and at the same time a big relief just to have a possible answer to these multiple problems.

We have been married for nine years, we have an eight year old daughter and five year old son together, I have a 17 year old son from my first marriage and my husband has a 16 year old son from his first marriage. All children live with us. I'm 35 and my husband is 43.

Works also for ADDers I think ...

The difference between the male and female brain:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AQ9L9YBJkk8

How to get your hubby to do what you want:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2ccJeRh_UzI

Ask more than once:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cwBKIQ__q7Q

Judging the intentions of his heart

Yesterday I was working on disaster relief for flooding in a nearby city with my ADD husband and a good friend who I'm sure is at least ADD but I believe has AD/HD.  If I remember correctly we had a discussion (he and his wife and I and my husband) about ADD a couple years ago when my husband was diagnosed.

We were laughingly discussing division of labor at home and how when everyone in the house is busy, it is hard to get everything done esp when you have a mate that literally doesn't see things that need to be done right in front of him.

I just wanted to share that my wife has (finally) heard me that we need help, and we just started working with someone who has experience working woth couples where one of the partners has ADHD.  I feel like one of the lucky ones!

Dear Readers,

This may not be the proper place to post about this, but it's a major source of frustration for me, plus it's depressing.

My house is a major mess. After everything I've read about ADHD I guess it's no surprise.

Some months ago, I started to post here, when I was coping with the failure of my relationship.  

I told my experience in two threads, so I will not repeat any of it:
http://www.adhdmarriage.com/content/lowering-my-own-standards-accomodate...
http://www.adhdmarriage.com/content/add-and-selfishness

Well, kind of!

I took the kids shopping last weekend for presents and hid them in the basement but I was so busy this week and yesterday I forgot to wrap them. They just totally slipped my mind.

i am not sure how i'm suppose to feel. I always feel lonely and I have talked to my husband about it way too many times. I feel that NOTHING has changed. I have tried my best to not get angry with him. i just this second finished talking to him about it again. He left anyway. Is it normal for us to talk about the same thing over and over and nothing to get resolved. He is always doing something and never has time for me. Does anyone have any ideas on how i can deal with this? I would greately appreciate it.

Unfortunately for me and my kids, it isn't going to work out. I have resigned myself to this fact and now just trying to make sure things are in place for me after the divorce to allow me the emotional, physical and financial resources to finish the job of parenting. It would be very helpful to hear from others on this website about advice you would give to someone like me. My spouse's perspective (ADD spouse) on his contributions financially and parenting are not the same as mine.