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I'm frustrated and fuming a bit.

My fiance has a very, very hard time "coming through" for me in ordinary times.  He can't be counted on.  I've been so let down by him at times that I just feel like I don't have a true partner.  We've argued about this, talked about it lovingly during good times, plotted and planned to get things to work and yet it just doesn't happen consistently. 

I have visited this site many many times and have read so many of the posts and blogs on ADD/ADHD marriages.  I am in a marriage with a man that has ADHD and refuses treatment or even to recognize that he has it.  All of the problems in our marriage somehow are my fault, he has led us down a very precarious road financially, and I am the one who shoulders most of the responsibility in our family.  I am exhausted, angry, bitter, sad, lonely, etc., etc.  My childhood dreams of marriage and family are shattered.  With the exception of our two beautiful children that are a mix of my husband's c

Hi everyone:

Well, we’ve been doing so well…my husband and I…and then, yesterday happened.  I know it shouldn’t have thrown me like it did but I we’ve been making so much progress that I thought …well, I guess I just thought THIS day would be different.

Does anyone have advice on Ginkgo as a supplementary treatment?  Some of the posts on this blog mention it, and I recall reading something about it briefly on an ADD newsletter I get, but haven't been able to find anything of substance.  Web searches only really yield info on general memory enhancement and dementia (maybe the non-ADD spouses need to take it LOL!) and I haven't really found anything specifically related to ADD.  My husband takes 18mg Concerta, and I'd like to hear any stories from people on this blog on their experiences.

I've been reading a lot of the posts on this forum as well as your blogs and it's helped me to understand so much about ADHD.  One thing I am still struggling to understand is the lack of attention to loved ones.  In one of your blogs you said ADHD is a dysregulation of the attention system, that a person with ADHD focuses in a dysregulated way and it's hard for them to focus on something that's not interesting.  This is what really helped me to understand ADHD more.  But does the lack of attention to loved ones mean they are not interesting to you?  How can you lose interest in someone you

Hello, everyone!  I just discovered this web site today and already I am so relieved: I'm not alone in my experiences as a non-ADHD partner!!!  I apologize if this topic has been covered elsewhere, I tried to find it first before posting.  My question is this: what can be done with an ADHD partner who does not seem able to hold down a job?

Fellow ADDers, I would appreciate some unbiased comments about my situation. thank you.

I am a male with ADD, severe, had a very difficult life in the school and work world. Suffered, lost jobs, lost money the list is long and ugly. The good news is that when my troubles were at their worst and simply unbearable (I was surviving on meds, alcohol and pot) I found out about my ADD alone at the age of bloody 38.

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Okay, what follows is cliche, but I know throughout my life I probably didn't really hear the message clearly enough to provoke lasting confidence, so I'm going to repeat it.

I went for a job interview the other day. I'd spent a lot of time preparing for it, anchored by the 100 lbs. stalagmites that form in my stomach drip by drip of self denegation as I prep for the anticipatory answer to the "why all over?" questions.

I got the job, actually a grander one than I applied for. I was as surprised as you are.

I am the non-ADD spouse, I have heard many say on this site that the best approach in dealing with issues, especially those which cause anger and frustration, is to set priorities and deal with one issue at a time.  That makes such sense, intuitively.  But I find myself having a hard time picking the one (or two) issues that matter most.  One, because there seem to be so many of them.  Two, because any issue taken by itself doesn't feel like it is "high priority" - rather, it's the cumulative effect over time that might make something a high priority.  And third, because whatever is frustra