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I just wanted to share that my wife has (finally) heard me that we need help, and we just started working with someone who has experience working woth couples where one of the partners has ADHD.  I feel like one of the lucky ones!

Dear Readers,

This may not be the proper place to post about this, but it's a major source of frustration for me, plus it's depressing.

My house is a major mess. After everything I've read about ADHD I guess it's no surprise.

Some months ago, I started to post here, when I was coping with the failure of my relationship.  

I told my experience in two threads, so I will not repeat any of it:
http://www.adhdmarriage.com/content/lowering-my-own-standards-accomodate...
http://www.adhdmarriage.com/content/add-and-selfishness

Well, kind of!

I took the kids shopping last weekend for presents and hid them in the basement but I was so busy this week and yesterday I forgot to wrap them. They just totally slipped my mind.

i am not sure how i'm suppose to feel. I always feel lonely and I have talked to my husband about it way too many times. I feel that NOTHING has changed. I have tried my best to not get angry with him. i just this second finished talking to him about it again. He left anyway. Is it normal for us to talk about the same thing over and over and nothing to get resolved. He is always doing something and never has time for me. Does anyone have any ideas on how i can deal with this? I would greately appreciate it.

Unfortunately for me and my kids, it isn't going to work out. I have resigned myself to this fact and now just trying to make sure things are in place for me after the divorce to allow me the emotional, physical and financial resources to finish the job of parenting. It would be very helpful to hear from others on this website about advice you would give to someone like me. My spouse's perspective (ADD spouse) on his contributions financially and parenting are not the same as mine.

As I was surfing the net to look for forums and blogs on marital problems, and ways of handling them, divorces, etc.

Oh boy I thought I could write this but the thoughts just left my head. I'll give it a try anyway.

While my wife is working to change some of her behaviors, she has also said to me a few times in the last couple of weeks that she it is wrong for me to want/expect her to change.  That I should just love her as the person she is, and that we should focus on the positive, spend time together doing fun things, etc.  I agree that we should focus on the positive and doing fun things, AND that we need to work to make some changes - both of us.  She is having a hard time, I think, becuase most, if not all, of the changes we are working on center around her ADHD-related behaviors and my response