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I have an impossible time wading through long posts, so I will try to keep this short, as if I had to read it instead of having written it!

I am adhd, diagnosed around 5 years ago, with non-adhd spouse, in 20+ year relationship, personal counseling for most of the last 5 years, couples counseling for 2 or 3 years [time spans are vague for me; time is only a concept] :-).

I was married to a person I cared deeply about and was in love with for many years. My marriage has now ended and I believe our problems for the most part were due to a lack of effort in getting help for my ADHD and depression. I never realized how this could affect a marriage until recently. I had a self-diagnosis yet never followed up with it. I have had some depression problems that I have been working on as well. Recently after formally testing off the charts with a psychiatrist did I realize how the deterioration was due in large part to the ADHD.

My partner has ADHD and I think in order to save my life he would run into a burning building. But...if he sees a nice looking girl at a discotheque, he  wants to hit on her, flirt, dirty dance and eventually kiss...

He has hit on 4 girls and kissed them. He stopped at the point when tongues were getting involved. 

I have been posting a lot the last couple of days, it seems, and I must say, I feel like my ADDwife and I (non-ADD) have been making some progress.  Granted, it's in fits and starts, but it's progress nonetheless.  And progress is GOOD!!

Hello everyone! I'm not married to an ADHD person (Chris), but we've
been together for over 7 years. We love each other so much that we
intend to marry when I complete my studies. We have come across many
different problems in our relationship and one of them is sex...Ok, this
is going to be impossible to explain if I don't dive into details, so it
can be a little explicit.

i'll get into a funk. i'll be all sorts of negative. and not focused on anything positive. there are times i'm in that funk for a week or more.

SO sits there so patiently.  sometimes it's too much and he reacts in a not so positive manner, but for the most part he is very patient and just tries to refocus me on the positive.

Hello everyone. I am a mom of 2 boys with ADHD. I also struggle with attention issues of my own. I have really had a hard time with consistency and organization - which I know makes things even more difficult for my sons. They need me to be consistent. I just started using an online family management tool called ADHD Nanny. You can do a search for ADHD Nanny and find it online. Has anyone used this program yet? We just started about a month ago and it has really helped me with the day to day schedule and my kids love it.

new. hi!

I've been skimming over the threads.  noticed that most assist the non-ADDer spouse with their anger issues and "dealing" with us ADDers.

Do you have any suggestions on how us ADDers can deal with the anger and resentment that we have after years of not receiving the support we truly needed from our significant others?

**background**

ok im going to try this. after reading some of your letters, I would like to say something from the other side of the coin. im not even sure im in the right place, ive never been diagnosed with adhd, but alot of what im reading sounds just like me.

I've posted about the problems my husband's ADD has caused me. Regular readers are probably sick of me....