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Lesser of two evils?

I am a 42 year old male diagnosed with severe depression about twenty years ago.  I have tried most of the traditional anti-depressant medications and am now on Effexor.  After watching the show on thursday july 9th, I'm now wondering if add is not a more accurate diagnosis than depression.  I have almost all the symptoms as described by the doctor and my marriage is in a terrible strain because of this.  Could this be the lesser of two evils if it were add instead of severe depression? 

College Student that doesn't know that she is ADD

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I have a daughter that is in college and doesn't know that she is ADD. My husband was diagnosed two years ago and finally faced the fact 4 months ago after I told him I was going to leave if he didn't do something. Now that we know was is wrong I can see it in our daughter and can relate to the problems we had raising her in her teen years. We have very little communication she doesn't have time for us or for friends because she doesn't have time. She has many of the same traits as her father.

Am I sane?

I am the wife of an ADHD spouse.  He was diagnosed about 3 years ago and started taking Adderall at that time.  About 4 months ago I told him I wanted a separation after 10 years of being together, 7 married and 3 before that.  The thing is, he is taking medication and now he wants to get counseling, yet I wanted to get marriage counseling 3 years ago.  He turned me down and got angry because nothing was wrong with him.  We have a small child, 4 years old.  I guess I'm just to the point that I don't want to try anymore.  The only reason I think I would stay with him is because I know that h

I'm all confused.

I was diagnosed with ADD and I am medicated. I handle the house, the bills, the kids, etc. I always did before being medicated now I am just more efficient at it. By watching Dr. Phil and reading these posts, I am all confused. Are we really that hard to live with? Am I in denial? Or is it because my husband has bipolar and he acts like the ADD spouse! I'm confused.

My husbands anger and ADD

So I'm new to all of this, my husband was diagonis with ADD about 4 years ago. We've been married for two years and it seems just to be getting worse. Kinda like a roller-coster. One minute he's happy and telling me how much he loves me and our son and the next he is wanting a divorce because he is convinced he doesnt make me happy! Ive tried to understand where he is coming from and trying to talk to him but he is always on the defense. He wont help me around the house but there are times when I ask him and he is fine.

I've almost lost all hope...

I have been to one psychiatrist who seemed less interested in actually diagnosing me and more interested in simply medicating me so he could diagnose by experimentation.  He was generally dismissive of my concern that I might have ADD because he said simply that most people grow out of ADD they experience as children and young adults.  I wasn't really happy with this answer but I tried the meds anyway, but they didn't help (I'll be honest, this was two years ago and I forget what I was given).

How can you get your ADDer to focus on something you NEED?

My husband and I determined months ago to move. However, I can't get him to help me look for a place. The property management places around here only work 9-5 Monday through Friday and he refuses to do anything during those hours (his work hours)

I understand the importance of his job, but he takes no lunch, although I'm sure the other employees there do, and I'm sure they handle their personal business. He doesn't want me to rent a house without him seeing it (I don't want to do that either), but that sticks us in this house we both hate.

Holidays

Yet another holiday has passed and I find myself saddened and frustrated.  My husband who has suspected he had add for many years was diagnosed about 4 or 5 years ago since then he has tried various meds and is currently taking adderall.  One of our biggest issues is holidays.  Most of the time he shuts down and in turn makes things a negative experience for all around him.  The only time he is happy is when he takes an extra dose of adderall or is drinking during a holiday.

Please help

   I think it may be possible that while my husband knows he has ADD he doesn't think that it affects him much or that he can control it, like he is in denial. The more I read about people's stories/struggles with this disorder the more I recognize similarities in Rick. I email him these stories and I ask, is this how you feel?

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